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Thinking outside the box

I am a young, Black woman who would like to date men of other races. However, I find that many men, White men in particular, don't find Black women attractive, or aren't interested in being in a relationship with a Black woman. I understand everyone has their own individual tastes, however, I don't find many non-Black men being receptive to the idea of dating a Black woman. Any advice?

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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
You have to change your paradigmas.. You are totally wrong.... Many white males really wish to date females of other nations / colours / religions.... You were simply not exposed to the right males....  Black is merely a colour nothing more and tells nothing on the personality.   Cheer up and find the right males who don't care about colours..... Black women are sure at least as atractive as white women....
Best regards,


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Love your life as you only get one. 

Your belief that white men are not interested in black women is extremely narrow-minded. If you want to date outside your "box," you have to be willing to look. Have you tried online dating websites?


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Its never too late to ask.

I think you may be looking in the wrong places, I'm of your race and although you did not give your age specifically, I believe I'm much older. There are lots of White men between 20-75 who would love nothing better then to have a meaningful relationship with a Black lady.


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Live simply, love generously, care deeply,

speak kindly, leave the rest to God.

Hi,

     I am Filipino and I date American men.  I think that you will find Caucasians who are not open to dating women of color but there are a lot of American Caucasian men who love to be with someone of color as long as the person has the inner qualities that he's looking for.

Good luck to you in your search.  Just be yourself.  Someday you will find that nice compatible man.


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Move to Ft. Hood/Killeen Texas. They love black women down here.


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Hi Mikel, is there a reason why you feel that you want to explore dating men of different races?  We can't help but have a least a few stereo types of how black men/white men/latino men are....please don't take that as a racist remark,  it is not intended that way....just more of a mere observance.  Instead of concentrating on the ethnicity of who you choose to date, tell yourself that each person you date has good (and some less desirable) qualities and base his compatibility on that.  And none of these good/bad qualities are because of his skin color, it's because of who HE is.  I'm sure that someone will find you to be equally as attractive because of who you are and they will not see you as a "young black woman"  but just as a beautiful person.   It's awesome that you are so non-judgemental!  I commend you for that!  Dating is hard enough without adding what some elitists would perceive to be the "social" barriers of crossing color lines. Some guys just can't get over the fact that no matter what color we are , we ALL bleed red when we get injured.  I work in a hospital so I know :>)  Just keep being open minded,  and don't sell yourself short by thinking that men of other ethnicity won't date you...you just haven't  found the right guy yet!!


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