Thinking About Having a Baby While I'm Still Young............

hi i am a father to be it was a shock for me but i suppose u could put it to him that he would still want to be young enough to be able to do stuff with your child and be able to protect them but all u can do is sit down and talk at the end of the day if he is not ready he wont be u will just have bear with him or coach him into it slowley i wish u good luck with your quest hope this helped

I wouldn't want to pressure my partner into anything. I am a father of two and adore my kids. when he is ready he'll let u kno. but  u kno, u could always try if u or he nieces or nephews, is have the kids over for sleep overs and see how he reacts. maybe that'll spark that fatherly instinct in him..

Great...............

in my opinion having a Baby is very expensive and that is Your jop not his job.

Was there a discussion before marriage about when you would have children?

If not there should have been lovely!

If so what happened to that decision?

Historically people have married to begin their family!

Just lovingly remind him of both of these histories.......! Good luck...!

Now I'm going to keep it 100% real on this one (as usual).

Your body is screaming I'm ready, but wisdom whispers your not. Your biological clock may feel that your body is ready to produce a child but you have to think about the consequences of every action and inaction.

When you follow your unconscious mind, body, or heart, then it's usually the right way to go- meaning it's probably fate. And the world will change around you for your circumstance. "Jump and a net will appear".

But you already talked to your spouse about it an he has voiced his opinions to you about the matter. Trust him. Trust the man that you married. If he says that 'we're' not ready(meaning you+him), then he means that his half is not ready. And the reason probably being because he wants to be completely stable in life so that he can give the child everything he/she needs. That's not being selfish, it's being wise because it takes more than just a loving home and finances to cover the essentials of parenting and produce & rear a well-balanced child.

There is a tremendous responsibility with becoming a parent- especially a mother. Mothers have greater influence on the child, especially in the early stages of his/her life when guidance is critical.

All-in-all..... Preparation is needed.

"The Mother's Preparation Strangely Neglected. The child's first teacher is the mother. During the period of greatest susceptibility and most rapid development his education is to a degree in her hands. To her first is given opportunity to mold the character for good or evil. She should understand the value of her opportunity, and above every other teacher, should be qualified to use it to the best account. Yet there is no other to whose training so little thought is given. The one whose influence is the one for whose assistance there is the least systematic effort."---(from Child Guidance)

I strongly recommend that you read this book. It helps guide us as parents to lay down the foundation for child rearing.

And. P.S. I had my first &only child at 18 and I am now 20. Sure I am financially stable but things can always be better. Her father and I are good parents and have that old school demeanor, but alot of times we are very busy don't have the time that we would like to truly guide and appreciate her the way that children are meant to be. 

Yes people she is married it's part of her question. How old are you? I think if you are over 30 that is not young.  But if you are under 25 then it is young. People now a days have children so late then are surprised when they don't conceive. So if you both have a substantial amount of income or net income really. Go for it.  I would say simply he is not ready or possibly scared with is perfectly natural. Yes children are a huge responsibility and very expensive, but if you strongly feel you are responsible and have enough money. Express your thoughts/feelings about it, and he should agree in time. :)

kids mean change and responsibility, than maybe something help is not ready for or don't know how to get to that place. go find a life coach or NLP practitioner in you area and see if they can change his model of thinking to one that is more aligned to a family unit.

Ron:- life coach