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Telling a woman how you feel

Why is it that sometimes when a guy tells a woman how he feels about her she immediately loses interest?


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OK, hold on to your keyboard and mouse... because I have some bad news for you...



When you "can't resist telling her how much you like her" you demonstrate a very special personality trait that I like to refer to as acting like a WUSSY.

This means that instead of being cool, relaxing, and seeing where things go, you get overcome with emotion and feelings for a girl you don’t even know, and decide to let her know what a Wuss you really are.

She probably enjoyed spending time with you.

She may have even been interested in you in a romantic way.

But when you go and blurt out your feelings for her, it makes you look like a bizarre fan or stalker.

Bad thing.

I have some more bad news for you.

Usually this woman is ATTRACTIVE.

I mean physically attractive. She's probably hot.

Guess what?

For some strange reason, men feel compelled to tell unusually beautiful women things like "I have feelings for you" or "I really, REALLY like you" or "You're special" very early on in a relationship.

And guess what?

They start to think that all men are Wussies, that they must be crazy, etc., and when they meet another guy who just shares his feelings after the first date, they run for the hills.

You need to lean back. Give women room. Don't see a new woman more than once or twice a week for the first several weeks (ESPECIALLY if she's unusually attractive).
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cal45
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KissLive & let live.

If you have been seeing her for a while and told her how you really feel if she is mature she should be thrilled and open up as well.  That is when the heat usually gets turned up

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telling someone how you feel is gutsy and may result in one of two ways... she'll either think u're a "wuss" or she will also open up to you.... communication is key, and a woman will usually have more feelings for a guy than the other way around.... so, be open, and don't be afraid to tell her how u feel.... just don't scare her! 

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LightBright
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Your question is saying that she was interested in you in the first place. Then when you told her you return her interest, she loses interest. You may have made the wrong assumption of her level of interest. Sounds like she was not attracted to you in the way you were attracted to her. In that case...it's better to move on and not waste anymore time.
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utterlybutterly
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ohh ur soooo right!!! im sooo much like the woman ur talking about!!! :(( everytime i meet a guy he turns out ... a wuss !
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Your question is the same one we woman ask ourselves. There are woman out there who lay out their interest for the guy they are seeing and then poof he disappears. Guess the labeling of a "wuss" works both ways. Meaning, men and woman are not so different -even in simple communication. Anything that comes too easy is just not that desirable. Sure you like it at first, but then what...you tend to be over it! Take your time to get to know someone and reserve your impulses to blurt out your feelings. This is not the same as hiding your feelings. I’m not talking about denying them. What I am suggesting is store those feelings and allow time to be your gut check. Either those feeling will grow and with enough time both of you will feel "it" or not.  Everyone knows talk is cheap. Allow the actions or in-actions from your person of interest to guide or confirm if what you feel for them is warranted and real.Best of luck to all! Love is good and being in love is the greatest give one could give another!
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