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Teen issues. pot, drinking , sex.

My daughter who will be 16 next month has admitted and showed me her bag of pot. We have had several other issues (not with drugs) along the way with her. I calmly stated I did not approve but I did not take it from her. I have taken away most privledges. No phone, no driving. no hanging with friends. I am tired of saying no all the time. I dont think that is always the answer. I am currently going through a divorce and have been wrapped up in my own issues. but I'm trying to balance. The divorce is no shocker its been a long time coming so that is not the problem. So my question is how do I handle this pot situation? It appears to me she wants to fit in somewhere a big decision for a teen these days. Sex and drinking have been issues as well.


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Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.

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I think you will have to decide how you feel about it and then communicate that to her.

If you are against pot and don't approve of her using it, then I think you will have to say so. If you want to take it from her but are choosing not to because you are hoping she will reach a decision on her own, then I think you will have to say that, as well.

My best suggestion is to talk openly and honestly with her.

You might tell her, "I don't approve of pot and I don't want you to use drugs. I won't take it from you, but I am hoping you will think about it and realize it is something you can choose not to do."

Then ask her how she feels about her loss of privileges. Is she willing to give up the pot in order to regain any of her privileges?

You and your daughter both need to understand that trust is the most important thing in your relationship. Thank her for being honest about the pot. Let her know that you cannot be with her every waking moment, and that you realize she can tell you one thing but do another - especially when she is away from home.

Let her know that you love her, even when she makes mistakes. Tell her that your job is not to make decisions for her, but to teach her how to think for herself and how to make her own decisions - decisions that are right for her, not for her friends (or for you).

Hopefully, she'll find her way back to your values pretty shortly.

Good luck to the both of you. 
Posted 2009-09-02T16:02:20Z
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A penny saved  is a penny earned

I agree with jk  answer i  gave her a thumbs up.   But wanted to add

Tough love

She was open enough to show and talk to you about her pot

Right then,  i think you should of taken it from her so it wouldn't be tempting to her.  She talk to you   now its your turn.  Tell her you do not approve of pot smoking  " espically teens"  and that you defenly do not want it in your house.

Your the adult to give her love and guidness.

???  Would you put a bottle in front of a  alcholic ? "  I DONT JUDGE.   It is a sickness like anything else.  Would  you would help and give them love---not judgement and turn your back on them.  Since she came to you,  she is showing that she needs you.  This is not the time to take every thing away from her.

Take care and let us know how you both are.  You need each other right now with all you are going thru.

God bless  nanadeeCool
Posted 2009-09-02T18:48:52Z
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