Any Suggestions?

Hi,
I read your notes very carefully and I believe you have to give him a clear ultimatum:  It's either me or her.....  (use: nice, smart sensetive words.....) hint him that you want him to saty with you.... but make it clear that you will never accept the present situation (as much as it hurts).  Sorry if I was too direct.
Best regards,

Its apparent he wants some on the side and still have the appearance of being together. maybe you should just do the same.

I think it's too late for ultimatums, if he is cheating and he doesn't think that his buisness id your buisness. Then drop him like a bad habbit because that's all he is.

I say leave him if he's doing dat he clearly doesn't care about you. You deserve something better dont wast your time with someone like dat.

Angelheart,

    Your husband is just plain disrespectful  and inconsiderate of you.  My friend OronD is right, gave him 2 thumbs up.  You need to make him choose between you and her.  If he won't stop this, I would leave the marriage.  Pretty soon,he'll be spending his time with her.

Angelheart,

    I just noticed that you posted this question 8 months ago. How is your husband?  Is he still writing the other woman letters and sending her gifts?