Stuck in The Middle of Love

Hello OptimallySweet......Sound like a dilema for sure....It is not unusual for a woman to have male friends along with a boyfriend or husband.....However, you are dealing with something else...The male friend wants to be your lover...Totally understandable why your boyfriend is not happy with your friendship..... Seems you have some soul searching to do....You have kept your male friendship against your boyfriends request....Are you sure that is all it is???  I am not suggesting that in the normal case you can't have both....But now your boyfriend wants to be your lover...Lady friend you can't have both......

What I think you may not realize is that while you were taking a break from dating, your best friend was likely beginning to feel something stronger for you because you began to "lean" on him as a friend. So unfortunately while you may have felt like you were taking a break, to your best friend, it felt like you had become closer and more compatible as a couple and not best friends. As a result, he's now in love with you. I think you have to be more upfront with your best friend. You have to spell it out for him, not in a mean way, but in a way that he can understand. You need to make it clear that you are not

I've been in this situation and the best friend ALWAYS makes the boyfriend uncomfortable. He may shoot a look at the guy when you're not paying attention. You've got to create some space from the best friend and pursue the relationship with the guy you want to date. Your best friend knows that you have not chosen him but keeping him around sends him mixed signals and makes him feel like he has the same chance of winning you as the other guy has. Tell him that you don't want to lose him as a friend and start to reduce the amount of time you spend together AND the times you talk on the phone. If you don't, he WILL get in the way of future relationships.