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Stressful times makes the passion go away

Okay bare with me with some of this detail...I need some advice, please!   My boyfriend and I live together ( since April 2009) now he asked me to move in right away and since we havent spent a night apart. I love him and we have talked about marriage..kids...now there is a 12 yr age difference (38yr and 26 yr).  Here is where I need YOUR help. He owns his own company and his job is very stressful but his emotions are very up and down due to this. Lately work has been slow which equals no money for him- he is stressed. So when he comes home to our tiny apartment he barely talks to me ( no kiss hello or cuddling) and is very distant. I take everything so personal and I give him space but last night he slept on the couch bc he couldnt sleep and this morning he barely spoke and went to work with a " have a good day" I feel like our passion is dying and his rollercoaster emotions I cant handle. I want to stay in this but i want him to appreciate me as well. Ughh

How can we move forward? How do I deal with his constant distance due to stress with work? Its making the passion evaporate and ya'll know we need that!!


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Maybe your boyfriend needs his entire apartment back - another words you should move out. Sometimes a seperation can renew the friendship and sometimes it just ends. Now is the time to find out.
Posted 2009-09-16T20:10:20Z
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Glass sculpture, Chihuly at Grant's Farm; http://www.chihuly.com

Victims of circumstance owe it to fate. Victims of choice owe it to themselves.

The first and foremost question to be answered is this- is he seeing someone else? If the answer to this is yes, please leave yesterday.

If the answer is no, then ask if he is using drugs/alcohol. If yes, then leave.

If the answer is no, then the two of you need to get into counseling. He is doing everything he can to make his business successful. The relationship between the two of you deserves no less. If he is unwilling to work on this, well---

What you describe is quite a "normal" reaction to stress. I hope the best for the both of you and I wish you well.

Jay
Posted 2009-09-17T02:03:50Z
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