rodray
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Stay @ home dad

When you're a man and you're not working, you get no respect...especially from your wife.  I've worked all my life, however,  during the past year I've been a "stay @ home dad."  I take care of my two minor children, do a lot of house chores, and volunteer my time to others in emergency situations. In return, I get a lot of verbal abuse and

disrespect.  What should I do?   
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mrankens
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"They will make war against the Lamb, but the lamb will overcome them because he is Lord of lords and King of kings- and with him will be his called, chosen and faithful followers." Revelations 17

It sounds like you're going through hell. Can we ask,.. is your Family Financially okay?..  Is your Wife earning a decent income?
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Hi,
That is really bad and you surely don't deserve it.  No offence, please, but very often it is a reflection of your relations.  I'll bet 3:1 on any sum that your relations are not very good (at most you'll say "so-so") in other words: no love and no affection (probably seldom sex)....  If I am right (In fact I know I am right) than you have to start by trying hard to improve your relations.  I have the feeling that you won't be able to do it by yourself so better get a marriage counselling.....
I appologize if I was too direct. 
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To: OronD Thanks for responding. You are 100% correct. My relations with this person contain no love, no affection, and as for the sex: VERY, VERY SELDOM...AND ON THOSE VERY SELDOM OCCASIONS, SHE FEELS THAT SHE IS DOING ME A FAVOR. At this point, I don't believe the relationship can improve. I really don't want to be here, but I do it for the kids. I appreciate your direct response.

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To: mrankens Thanks for responding. Yes, I am going through hell. My wife is earning a decent income and, financially, everything is up to date.

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"They will make war against the Lamb, but the lamb will overcome them because he is Lord of lords and King of kings- and with him will be his called, chosen and faithful followers." Revelations 17

I'm sorry, I am so ready to tell you what to do, but first I have another question!   Do you think it is at all possible that her hostility toward you has anything to do with jealousy?.. I say that because you get to spend a lot of time caring for, and certainly bonding with your kids, that you are doing such a great job holding down the fort at home, and I wonder if she feels left out?  Like she would like to stay at home with everybody too!   Does her Anger seem at all like Envy?.. Resentment?
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To: mrankens Because of my current status, I am able to analyze a lot. I never thought about jealousy towards time with the children although I'm spending more time with them now than ever. I would think that that's a good thing. I could have chosen to do otherwise. Technically, if I was not a stay @ home dad, we would have to scramble on a day to day basis to arrange drop offs / pick-ups from school, after school activities, trips to the library, and a variety of other things. I have also overextended myself to her family's need for the above-mentioned. Again, it all resulted in verbal abuse and disrespect. What should I do?
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