Stay at home dad divorce help?

Did you consider marriage counseling?  If she really wants a divorce, she may have to support you because she makes more money than you.  If the judge will give you custody of the kids, she will be made to give child support. 

    She is making life more complicated for everyone  especially the children.

Whatever happens, get a good divorce lawyer.  You will get 1/2 of everything plus alimony and possibly child support.

   Good luck and I'm sorry that you're having marital problems,  Take care.

Regarding legal possibilities, I would think the courts would be discriminating on the basis of sex if you were declined child support for the 4 children and alimony for you. Stay at home moms win all the time. Why wouldnt a stay at home mom? You should consult a divorce attorney from your local phone book. Most, if not all, attorneys give a consultation for free. You can just ask the atty directly over the phone or go in for a first time appt. All free. Good luck to you.

First, hire the best divorce/family law attorney you can afford! If you live in a community property state you will get 50% of all assets, and usually 50% of the debt. If you don't, you'll have to draw up a community property agreement with your wife.  You will also have to draw up a child custody agree with clear visitation schedules and also for Child Support. Your maintanance, or "alimony", is a seperate agreement. If your wife is uncooperative in any of these areas, you can still draw up these agreements, only now, instead of being called "agreements" they'll be called "demands" or "requests", depending on your court's legaleze.

Also, fathers, whether they are stay at home parents or not, frequently have an uphill fight trying to win custody of their children if the mother wants to resume her duties as full time parent. You must be assertive, clever, thorough and convincing. And you need to have a skillful attorney!

If you and your wife are in agreement on everything, you can save a chunk of money if you buy the legal forms and fill them out yourselves. Be careful though, make sure all your jots and tittles are dotted and crossed! And never ever go into a court room to face a judge without a skilled attorney!

Impress upon your attorney the importance of your being able to continue being a stay at home father. It will create a continuity of nurturing and security as well as reinforce a good example of self discipline for the children.

I wish you and your children (and wife too) well!

First if i may say dont get divorce papers froum a divorce guide and fill them out your self.Now if you look back over your statement that you made. That makes me wonder how long has she been away from home now as she has had a relationship for some time now behind your back with who is unknown then you get a job part time on the weekends while the cats away the mice will play. As from the start of your Question i knew where it was gowing before getting to the heart of it. My advice to you is get the most lousey good forr nothing lawyer you can find ask around you want the best lawyer you can get. Even if you have to go out of town to find one. Now if your smart you go for all you can get down to the point of her paying your attorney costs anf full custody of your 4 children  plus alimony and possibly child support your maintanance. Now putting all aside from that if you can prove she had an affair with whom ever you got more ledverage in your favor you can own her a-- lock stock and bearell. This way you get it all for you and your children if you choose to that is a decesion you will have to make for your self. No one can make up your mind execept you. But a lawyer is your first stop on this and where you go from there is up to you.

Sometimes it matters who file custody  papers first. And if you get so threaten that your kids you'll never see again. Just call 696 kids and let them no the type of life she lives for her kids. But i must warn you if you start this you better be prepared to go for it at all cost. AND second not to sound harsh. But it sounds like you got to lazy and use to the money and that's all your in it for.And she sound likes she wants the man role and some what the pimp. I'ts sound like it's her way or the highway. either way it sound like you both got issues Because if your so use to her taking care of you are you able to hold down ha job to support them children.Think about it before you open acan a worms you don't want.

I am not a professional and can't offer you any legal advice but, "my hat's off to you"!!! Unfortunately, it sounds like you wife has already made up her mind but you and your kids shouldn't be the ones to change the way you have been living.  Fight for the rights of you and your kids. Let her (since it is the "role" she chosen) continue to be the bread winner.  Let her pay child support.  Heck, go for alimony too!!!   Good luck to you.

Times have changed, women are ordered to pay alimony and child support now. You fall into that catagory, seems to me. you have been there for four years with her approval and you have worked cheaper than having to hire someone else.See about getting a lawyer before she cuts the funds off. If she is serious about a divorce you may have to face up to it, unless she wants to go to marriage counseling. Hate to say this, but she may have someone else in the wings. You should be able to continue in the house, with the kids,and live the way you do now because that's the way children like things. She would have to pay a lot more to get all the caretakers and people to do what you have been doing. Stand your ground on this, and I believe you will win. Good luck.

There is more going on here that mets the eye, you should contact the t.V program "cheaters" you are a wonderful man and dad to your kids & as for your wife, get a good divorce lawyer as you are the primary caregiver & yes !  You will get child support from your (i hope) soon to be x-wife. She is useing you, especially since you got a part time job best of luck. Let me know how it works out. Thanks.