Stay at Home Dad Divorce

Contact your state's Bar Association and ask for a referral to an experienced Family Law attorney in your area. There is often a small fee for the service, but it should be fairly low (in my area, it's just $30).

Before you go to meet with the attorney, be sure to write down a list of all the questions you want to ask. (That way, you won't forget anything and need to make another appointment and have to pay another consult fee.) You should also try to get together a rough estimate of your incomes (yours and hers) and the average monthly expenses you have, as well as an idea of the amount of time you each spend with the children.

Since you have been the primary caregiver and your wife has been the primary breadwinner, it is likely that the Court would order her to pay you sposual and child support, especially if you are awarded primary residence (when they live with you, even if you and your spouse have 50-50 custody).

The attorney will be able to advise you as to your specific legal rights and responsibilities based on the laws in your state.

Good luck and get going.

The fact your wife is set on a divorce and with her being gone from home most of the time tells me that you have lost her and you say when shes on the phone most of the time when she is If in reading between the lines of what you did not say i think she has now found someone else to replace you. But then you say you have three young children at home that you take care of if i were you i would chalk it up as a loss. Contact your attorney to see that he looks out four your rights and what is best for your children, But in my openion your best bet is get out and dont try to make ammends with her as you have lost her as much as i hate to say it. And being that she wont try to work anything out should tell you something i think she has found some one else my advice is move on with your life and your childrens as it will not get any better than it is now. i dont like to say  divorce but it may be your only move. The problem is the unknown person is but if you can prove this fact it will help you out with your divorce so try to find out.

Lawbug, most states now have what is called 'no-fault' divorce. This means that the cause of the broken marriage is simply "irreconcilable differences," which further means that the Court does not care who did what, with whom.

Whether his wife has another man or not is irrelevant unless she intends to petition for sole custody and move her boyfriend in with herself and the children. Even then, it would only be relevant as far as custody and visitation, not grounds for the divorce.

I really feel for you and your situation. As bad as it sounds, divorce may be your only option. If the feelings are not the same as far as the wife, then what is left to work on? Your children should come first! I agree you should see an attorney, write your questions down and stick to your guns. Child support and sposual support is a fact of life. The children should not have to change everything about their lives because she is "done". As I have sadly found out, take everything you can, you can give back later if you wish, but can not get it later. Custody should be a no brainer! You can not parent if your not present. That is taken into consideration. Good luck. So sorry for the heartache and family break up.