Stable enough or not?

If he has underlying feelings that he never has gotten over then he might "want a break" or just cheat on you. There are a few things that make a relationship an actual relationship. Fidelity, trust, communication, love, and compromise. If any of those things aren't there you will eventually fall apart and nothing you can do will get that back. Except maybe work on things. Do you trust him enough that he will not do anything with her? If you have doubts then maybe you should talk to him about it. If he is lying to you then you won't know unless you start following him around. If this was me in this situation, I would not want my significant other to be around that person. If he really loves you then maybe this is what you need to do to ease your fears. Or, hope for the best and maybe nothing will happen between them.

Sorry not stable enough but OronD hit the heart of the matter 2 thumbs up... I cant even give you advice bc the truth of the matter is... you need to trust yourself a little more and listen to your own intuition... you know the truth... trust yourself:))

Hello, coriandermay,

      As I do many times, I must agree with OronD, (2 thumbs up). This "relationship" you describe sounds like a painful situation, even in the drama filled activity of a student. We've all gone through similar situations growing up and they always end up the same; a painful learning experience. We do learn however, and that is, to honor ourselves and stay away from dishonorable relationships.

     Your description of this on and off relationship expresses nothing but pain and distrust. It seems to me that you might be looking for an answer that confirms what you already know. I have empathy for your situation; however, you are allowing this to continue. It is important that you respect yourself, and with that you will know exactly what to do.

                   With Kind Regards,

                                             Daniel

Friends with benefits

That's what some call "LOVE'

But then we all know that shoe doesn't fit

Therein lies that togetherness rub

Take off the blinder,

And face the stark reality.

See all those many reminders,

He's meant for someone else,"But not for thee".

i have read your ongoing relationship drama posts with your bf. I have read the constructive well thought answers from other caring souls.. My thing is , you don't listen to good advice to your situation. Honey, in my opinion , you are beating a dead horse and showing deniel and fear to let this man go. I hate to be so blunt and sounding uncaring, but not true on my part. This man doesn't give a rat a** about your feelings and you are being played as a spare tire. why  continue to waste your time on this zero and find yourself and get to know you. We who cry wolf over and over as victims  give  our personal  power away to worthless people. Time to move on with your life. Dang! no one thats good to keep oneself in turmoil and misery. Life is too short.. the living get moving .. Just let go, girl. At times people believe , because they invested much time, gives them a excuse to continued to get abuse from their s/o. stop being a victim.

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