my bf of 8yrs wanted to split and at 1st i wasnt with it i begged and everything i even tried killing myself. he wouldnt give me a straight answer he kept kelling me it had nottin to do with me it was just something he had to do so i thought and figured out alot was my fault we sat and talked and 2 days later he said he couldnt do it he was gonna try it out with this other girl he said the only thing about her was that when hes with her it reminds him of how we used to be i asked him to lets work it out he said we tried
that so many times and it only gets us back to this so we actually both think that if we were to do this then if we get back together we will be alot better. i even asked him how he can do this after everything weve been thru together good and bad and everything i did for him and hes always been there for me no matter what even when i slept with our bestfriend he forgave me so why this time did he decide he want this. i couldnt figure it out and it was driving me crazy. we own our house and he still has all his stuff here and he dont want me out of the house as well as he dont want his ring back he said just in case we get back together. andhe still wants to have sex with me and joke around with me and stuff and hes always making sure im alright. by the way hes staying at her house. anyways last week i asked him if there was any chance of him coming back and he said no why i said cause if not im thinking about moving in with this guy i met and he said do what u gotta do but if he hurts u i will kill him i was so upset about him saying he wasnt coming back but i didnt let him c. i ended up going out later that nite and he calls screaming at me about what were doing with the animals and he will come and pack up his stuff i told him slow down what r u getting at he said well u said u were moving in with some guy do u know how that makes me feel and i said 1st of all i said i was thinking about it i wasnt sure yet and 2nd how this makes u feel what about how i feel that your with another girl and he said deb ive never loved been in love with or cared about anyone like i have u and i never will i told him well u wont talk to me u said u needed your space and that i was pressuring u so i stopped and gave u what u wanted what else do u want from me i do want u back but i cant sit and wait forever he then said he wanted to talk tomorrow so i said ok and we did i told him it would b a wrong move to just jump back into a relationship so lets start out as friends and c where it goes and he agreed. a couple days later i sent him a letter and he said he almost brought him to tears. the letter is as follows
Dear, Art
My heart will always have an open door for you waiting for you to come in. Even though you left, I hold no ill feelings towards you. You are my one great love and the one "that got away" if you will let me be a little cliché. There is nothing you could ever do to make me turn my back on you. I am still completely entranced by you and I would wait forever if I knew there was even the smallest of chances for your return.
I understand why you needed to leave and I am not trying to plead for your return to me and our relationship. I am not trying to change your heart of make you feel those feelings which escape you right now. I just wanted you to be aware that if you ever had a change of heart, I will always be here for you.
If someone treats you unkindly, you always have a shoulder to cry on. If someone hurts you, I will always be here to make you feel better. If you are sad or depressed, I will always do my best to cheer you up and make you smile again if that is what you desire. If you are having problems of any sort, I am always here for you and will help you work them out. For any problem, I will do my best to be whatever you need. I still consider you my best friend, and best friends are here for each other.
Of course, I still miss you. I will not deny my feelings for you and my desire for you to return. I think about you every day. I miss our talks, our cuddling, our kissing and the feelings that you can only share with your beloved. I miss it all terribly. I miss seeing your face so much that sometimes I shut my eyes as hard as I can until I can see your perfect face in every detail. I pretend that you are right there, holding me and loving me once again. It helps me cope with the pain I feel.
If ever you should change your mind, don't be afraid to tell me. My feelings will remain the same for a long time and I am sure of this. And I hope this comforts you too, knowing how much I miss you and knowing that there is someone who loves you all of the time, no matter what.
Always Missing You,
debbie
now is this a good thing that he was all teary cause of it and does that mean theres a good chance of him wanting to came back? as well as him cheating on this girl does that me he really dont care about her.? and also on the phone he told me (finally)that i wasnt into the club thing( which this other girl is)and that i never went out with him anymore which i did stop cause i didnt think he wanted me with him all the time and he said" thats what hurts , cause i did i always liked spending time with you" and i know a couple times he got upset at me about not wanting to go out that night. so now hes slowly starting to come out with everything so this is good right? now is there a good chance that hes gonna come back to me? and if so what can i do and sayto him to make him realize im willing to try and like the club thing and start going out with him again and have fun. without him thinking im pushing to much and without out him thinking im only saying and doing this stuff to get him to come back. i love him to death and i really want us to give this another shot i really need some help on this one i feel like im playing a life and death game where if i say or do the wrong thing its gonna push him further away but if i dont do or say anything it aint gonna go no where . i wrote a couple of the same questions in here that i asked b4 but this time i gave all details so someone can really help me out.