This is a long and drawn ed out story that has been going on between my sister and I for most of our lives, I really cannot pin the moment it started, however it has been building for the worst in the last couple of years. There is lots of drama miscommunication and misunderstanding, I cannot say its entirely her because I know I am at fault also.
Our latest issue started when I decided to host a baby shower for her and our sister in law (our brother's wife), since they are due two weeks apart and are both having boys, so I figured I host the two in one party. From the very beginning I said I would have a shower for the family and intimate friends, for obvious reasons such as budget, I am hosting it at my house so I don't have the room and I wanted it to be a very nice and intimate gathering.
So after I sent out the invitations, my sister has our mother give me this additional list of people that she decided to invite, at first I was very upset, because she did not even ask me nor consult with me. However I felt bad and after I thought about it, I redid my budget and spoke with her and let her know that we could invite 6-7 more people, however if she would not mind by hiring someone to help me serve and clean up afterwards. She agreed, however a couple of days later I get a phone call where she says that she is very thankful, however she does not want to burden me by inviting all this additional people, and that her husband is going to be hosting a shower for her, the following weekend and that I don't have to bother, and that she thinks I am just having it because of obligation.
We had a conversation over the phone and I went over everything, how I had originally planned it and that I was a little upset that I did not get consulted on adding more people to the list, and so on. By the end of the conversation I assumed everything was just handled and clarified. However today I receive a phone call from the grandmother (on her husband's side) letting me know that she will not be there, because she and her husband have decided to go to DISNEY. That is the straw that broke the camel's back. I am so upset and I really do not know what to do and how to handle this, which has become a totally unnecessary and much not needed drama in my life. Please help, How should I handle this, and for that matter how should I handle our relationship, I have come to the end of my patience by always being the suckers.
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