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Sister Not Following Conditions of Probation; Still Using Drugs--Where Does her PO Fit In?

My 40 year old sister is on probation for stealing money (from me) and forging prescriptions for opiates.  One of the conditions of her probation is that she not use oxycontin, vicodin or any other narcotic.  Benzos like valium and xanax are also banned.  A month ago, I found out she is still filling prescriptions for drugs she is not supposed to take.  I was picking up an antibiotic and the tech also brought out some hydromorphone (like percocet only in pill form) and clonazepam for her.  They'd just been called in and, likely because we have the same last name, it was assumed they were for me.  I told them they were not mine and left to confront my sister.  She adamantly denied the fact she's still using drugs and said there must be another person with her name but I found the bottles, nearly empty, a week later in her room. She also continues to use the local ER to obtain percocet.

She meets with her probation officer every week.  What I don't understand is how it's even possible her PO doesn't know she's still taking drugs.  I thought they got a copy of her medical records, including visits to the ER and prescriptions.  But, no, according to my sister, all the PO wants to know is why she hasn't found employment.  I can answer that very easily:  When my sister is not "resting" in her darkened bedroom, she looks and acts like she's high and out of it.

Less than a year ago, she took a bottle of clonazepam and had to be rushed to the ER and then admitted for a 72 hour hold in a psychiatric hospital.  I don't think she even realizes just how many drugs she's actually taking.  Nothing in her life has changed since she appeared in court--she's still using, still lives with our mother, still stays in bed "sick" for part of nearly every day, still unemployed, and still stealing.  I caught her taking money from Mom's purse two days ago. 

My dilemma is this:  Do I call her PO or the judge who issued the order and suggest they look at my sister's recent medical history?  I worry she will overdose.  I worry she will get into a car accident and possibly harm herself or others while she's high.  I worry she's going to drive her 12 year old son away as all she does when he's around is sleep or sit around with her eyes glazed over.  My mother won't do anything; she just loves having someone around all the time.  Clearly the PO isn't being terribly pro-active (although she does have a lot of clients).  What would you do?  I could really use some advice.  Thanks!


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I'm an only child, so I don't have a lot of experience with the whole sibling thing. But if I were you, I think I would notify someone in authority of what's going on. I realize your sister is an adult and responsible for her own choices. But her choices are affecting others, especially her minor child - and someone needs to be held accountable.

That being said, I'm not sure who you should notify. Her parole officer is perhaps a place to start, but if her P.O. is already overworked and/or underpaid then it is possible s/he just doesn't give a damn so long as things don't blow up and cause more paperwork.

So perhaps the police? Your sister's doctor? You'll have to be the judge of which authority figure will be most likely to take action and then provide as much evidence as you can so it will be easier for that person to take steps to help your sister.

What you are willing to do isn't an easy choice - but I do think it's the right one.

Good luck.

 
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I would make a phone call to her PO, and suggest a 10-panel drug screen; and have her physically observe the specimen; there are many ways to fool the system. It could save her life.

Posted 2009-08-14T00:26:13Z
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Thank you, JKGrandma and Chucho! Your responses have given me the information I needed. I spoke with a deputy and the doctor who has been giving her all these drugs. I also left a message for the PO about doing the test you mentioned, Chucho, and she responded that was something she had been planning to do but "will move up the timeline."

The good news in all this is that--for now--my sister is seeing a new doctor instead of the one who was giving her all the opiates. He is a neurologist and was consulted to help just with her non-stop migraines but he ended up pulling her off everything--the bipolar meds, the anti-depressant, the narcotics, etc.  And, voila!, she hasn't had a headache for a week now--which is huge! She is now convinced the bipolar and anti-depressant were giving her the migraines so says she doesn't want to take them again.  And she is acting more normally--going out and doing things all day instead of sleeping and complaining of pain and fatigue.

My conversation with the doctor--or, to be precise, her nurse--was interesting. I said I knew there was nothing they could tell me because of HIPPA but HIPPA doesn't preclude me from giving them information about my sister. I told her I knew that she was prescribing opiates and benzos for her and just said I hoped she knew this was violating a court order. Dead silence for a minute then the nurse said she'd call me back. She did and thanked me for the information, saying "doctor didn't know this but will take into consideration in her treatment plan." Hopefully, she will.

But once again, thank you both for your help and insights! I greatly appreciate it and really am grateful you took the time to help me out with this problem. Bless you both!

Posted 2009-08-16T18:53:59Z

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