Why Do Siblings Have To Take Advantage Of Their Brothers And /Or Sisters Heart?

It sounds like you just took the first step - you said "no".

Being a giver - the only advice I have right now is don't give yourself away. I know because I did.

Hi Unkdertaker.  I agree with Donna, and I think the reason your sister keeps asking you for things is because she knows you won't say no...but you finally did, and good for you!  No one likes being used, especially by their own relatives...I know...I am a giver too.  My guess is you probably feel sorry for your neice too, especially if your sister says mean things to her.  It sounds like you have such a big heart and your sister knows it so she takes advantage of it. 

In honesty of being a sibling myself. I have had somewhat the same experience. It took me on a spiritual journey  and at the same time, hateful thoughts conflicking with good thoughts. What I noticed was during the good times when times are good and everything flows and we are recieving what we want were happy, content and easy going. When times get tough, we strike out at everyone but ourselves. Alot of people get content and lazy when everything is done for them. In this case, you are the giver and give freely from the heart not expecting something in return. On the other hand, while your sister was able to rise on her boyfriends wings and see her needs met she is now conflicking with her needs and wants and perhaps a little scared because she has no one to lean on at this time. Her free use of the credit card is gone, her giddy feeling of being able to buy and do things she wants is now limited. This is a shaker to ones confidence and self esteem. I don't think it is you that she is mad at.Perhaps it's herself for having leaned on someone for so long that she cannot feel she can lean on herself to supply her needs. What she needs to realise is to lean on God for her needs and let go of the worry of wondering what am I going to wear, what I am going to eat, and where is the money going to come from she should just look around and see that indeed her needs are being met. She may see you as sucessful and "taken care of" while she is hitting stumbling blocks. Can you imagine whats it like to love someone who is now in jail for a dirty deed. Her love is there and perhaps dought at the same time. Be still , and quiet and don't throw things in her face. Give her time to accept the things she cannot change. Yes, it easy to let someone always pay our way, and now that the BF is out of the picture she wants to lean on you again. Politely let her know, you are there for her but you too have your needs and things you must care for also. suggest that she put a little money away when she can for a "rainy day" and next time you two want to go out she will have the means to pay her way and not wait for you to say, here let me pay for this..... I dought she is against you personally. Just give her space to discover she will be okay.

It sounds to me like your sister needs to grow up. Getting a ittle bit of maturity behind her will do her the world of good.

unfortunately, people who tend to have a lot of things done for them as they are growing up tend o expect it when they are grown. Watch the movie Step-Brothers.

Stop doing for her and wait till she comes to you to ask for companionship. It is hard when you want to be close to your siblings but is it worth being used?