Sexual questions....

If you really care about yourself and having a good long-term relationship someday, you won't have sex at such an early age -- especially not with the boyfriend you've described. It may seem as though nearly every guy and girl in your high school is having sex. First, that's not even close to being true, and second, none of that will matter to you or anyone else in a few years. You're not hearing about the ones who are choosing to wait, but with this boyfriend's way of talking about his ex-girlfriends, my guess is that soon after you have sex with him other people in your HS will know about YOU. If your reputation and sense of self-respect matter to you, don't take that course.

Also, I know the excitement of dating a guy is overwhelming right now, but as other responders mentioned, an STD or a pregnancy could seriously damage plans for marriage, college, and so on, depending on how bad it is. A huge percentage of teens who are having sex are getting STDs because they are sleeping with other teens who've already had many partners. Just because you take a pill or use a condom does not guarantee your safety. There is no safe sex except when you're in a loving relationship with a person who is mature and responsible, and would never harm you by exposing you to those risks. Does this boyfriend -- who disrespects his ex by talking about her that way -- sound like the type?

I hate to lecture you, but it sounds like you need some more serious advice than some of the other responders gave you. What you now see as mostly fun and adventurous  will be more important to you some day. And despite what you may think about guys, many men really care about dating and marrying women who were responsible at a young age. Please don't put your health or future at risk to please some guy you'll never see after high school. Think about what you owe to yourself.

geeesh this must be alot of answers for you to handle no one can tell you what to do hun but you do need to be aware of the consequences you say your in love tell him if he realy love you hell wait till your ready and i know theres alot of pressure out there from peirs that have had sex and what not but you shouldnt listen to that and if hes telling you things like she swallowed and i liked it and blah blah then hes most likley expecting it i can tell you im 23 and have had a lot of sex and have been very lucky not to get diseases but i finally met somone who is everything to me and the best sex i ever had is with him im not saying get married before you have sex because for one thing if you dont shop around a little you wont know the difference in good and bad sex but make sure you always use protection and talk to a guidence counciler about it good luck hun

I think that sex is special.  Im with OronD on this one.  There are definate risks and pleasures abound.  The most important question, sistah, is this the guy you want to loose your virginity too?  It always feels right in the moment so think real hard before you come to a heated passionate moment.  As far as the vagina being able to accomadate a penis, and you being "tight", many woman have the same sensation and might bleed the first time they have intercourse.  It may be painful and really not whats its cracked up to be at all.  With a lot of foreplay ,and plenty of lubrication, this can ease some of the tension you will feel.  When the time comes , relax and enjoy, bc you always will remember the first time. Best of Luck