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Sex starved

My husband and I used to have sex at least 3/4 times a week. For quite some time now he has no interest. He says there is no onwe else. He said he is worried abouot bills (which we always had) and he is depressed because he had a terrible childhood. I feel these are all juse excuses. He won't go talk to anyone. What should I do?


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If you have been married for a while and are over 50, then it is quite understandable as to why the problem might be happening.  Here is a website to see how to handle it. www. mayoclinic.com/health/loss-of-sex-drive/AN01431

<> But if you are a young couple, then you may want to read how you both can have a fulfilling sexual relationship.

<>www.mayoclinic.com/health/sexual-health/HQ01363


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Can't resist a woman with a very sexy body!

Have you tried getting naked in front of him and just going for it just to see if you can entice him. maybe just unzipping him and orally pleasing him. Or when you in bed at night next to him just make an agressive move and see what happens. maybe he can't perform and needs some viagra or something. men can be stressed but it won't hurt to just try some different things to see what he might respond to favorably but don't get dissapointed at him if it doesn't work. the last thing you want to do is make him feel bad, you have to stroke his ego and make him feel good about himself. you may have to encourage him with good and kind words and tell him how attractive he is to you and how you long him to please u and good things like that. From Trial and error you may find the right thing to get him to give it to you


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First, to be fair to your husband, take him at his word that there are no non-sexual factors affecting his desire for you. Have him examined, and appropriately treated, for depression. Anti-depressant medications tend to reduce libido, however. And he may be overwhelmed by life over the past several years, again possibly a sign of depression. If he gets an all-clear here, and there are are no other systemic medical factors, then you could well be facing the awful reality that yours is becoming a sexless marriage. It does happen, and, typically, when it does occur, the "high-sex desire" partner tends to become most dissatisfied and even resentful of the other. It can even affect self-image. Very commonly, the "low sex-drive" partner remains unconcerned about sex, and unresponsive to erotic/romantic sexual overtures from the mate. So, to help answer your question: what should you do, I ask: after you have gathered the facts, what would you like to do?


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