Sex

You should try to find the reason for his lack of interest. It is very  important because it could be a health or money problem that he is afraid to share with you. If that fails you should try to convince him of the importance of therapy.

Julie,

   Have you both consulted a marriage counselor?  Has he been to his doctor to see if there is any medical problem that is causing his desire for sex?

   If you both have done these things and still he does not provide you with pleasures of sex like a husband should,  you need to be honest with yourself if you could endure this.  I see  that you're only 51 years old, you still have a chance to be happy and have all your needs met.  You don't have to resort to cheating and getting sex from just any man.  The most practical thing to do is to divorce your husband and find a loving man who will make you feel like a real woman.

    Divorce should be the last resort. Perhaps if you mention divorce to your husband, he will change and give you what you need sexually.  I know some responders will tell you to buy a vibrator.  I think a vibrator is only good if you don't have a man to give you the real thing.  That's just my  humble opinion.

1) Try a sex therapist

2) Try finding the cause for his lack of libido

maybe his testosterone levels are low... they can give injections for that

maybe he has Erectile dysfunction... there are plenty of drugs for that... or Testosterone may help...

3) you could try some new stuff in a sex shop for him and for yourself... sex toys have been know to work wonders... there is also adult videos... visual stimulation is very important to men...they need to see stuff to visualize doing it... or you could try reading and erotic novel together... subscribing to playboy...little sexy things that may increase his libido naturally...

4) exercise together...this is very important...exercise is the first step towards a healthy and long life...if he or you feel bad about your weight or how you look compared with how you use to look...there will be problems...if he exercises regularly he will feel younger.. join a gym..take a walk...do it together...

5) for that matter do things you use to do together... go see a movie..go on a date...go somewhere you use to go...bring the romance back...

6) make sure that you are satisfied in the meantime either by yourself or with a toy...

V.

http://www.bestvibes.ca

It is very difficult to resolve this problem because we only hear your side. Perhaps you can let us know in greater detail what he is saying. Does he feel the marriage is coming apart? Is he bothered by that?