Thanks for your  advice. It sounds like you are in a similar situation. My husband has caused me to basically lose the feelings that I once had for him. After being shut out for so long it doesn't really matter anymore. He most likely is in a depression and that is how he has lived most of his life. He was in love once when he was young and most likely she was the love of his life. I just fill a space but I am not the one he loves. If that makes any sense. He is an alcoholic and a very negative person and I do not let him beat me down anymore. I am standing up for myself and since we are basically just roomates I don't worry that he will hold out any affection towards me. I am working towards having a good career and there was a specific day when he realized it and out of the blue he wanted to show some affection for no apparent reason, except it was totally clear to me that he felt if he didn't start showing some kind of affection his meal ticket would leave someday. I am no dummy. He told me once that I was money in the bank which I will never forget. This marriage definitely has no future. I want more from life than to just exist. I am taking my time right now and when I feel the time is right we will part ways and I can get on with my life and start enjoying it.