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My boyfriend is more experienced at sex then I am. We just started having sex together and it has been hard for him to reach an orgasm. He won't say it but I think it is my inexperience that causes this. Is there something I can do or a position that would help us orgasm together?


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It's really nice that you are so considerative.  There is no one recipy to use.... each couple / person with there preferences.  The key word is: Try.... keep on trying until you'll find out what exactly is the best 4U (both).  If you are open enough with him discuss it with him and tell him you would appreciate it he guids you as per what / where / how he prefers.  Don't worry, I am sure that soon you'll overcome it and be as experienced as he is. 
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You can never step in the same river twice.

The only way to know what he likes is by asking him! If you push him to guide you, he will most definitely enjoy it.

Posted 2008-01-27T14:37:53Z
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I doubt your inexperience is delaying his orgasm. He may be nervouse that he's hurting you or that your not enjoying things as much as he is. Just relax, have fun and ask him what he would like!

Posted 2008-01-28T14:58:52Z
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You are NOT causing him to have difficulties with ejaculation. Your sexual inexperience would have nothing to do with his slow or no-existant orgasm. Most standard sex positions work very reliably in terms of resulting in a man's orgasm. The sensation of being in a vagina is all that most men need. So, relax and don't worry about your role.

 

Things that can influence a man's orgasm speed include: recent alcohol or recreational drug consumption, some prescription medications, "performance" anxiety, and, importantly, not enough time and effort spent on foreplay, including oral sex. Perhaps slow down at the beginning. Don't rush into intercourse.

 

A great position for inexperience is the "arch". The man sits in front of the woman with his legs folded under him (sitting on his knees). The woman lays on her back with her legs over the mans thighs or resting on his shouldes. Put a

pillow under her back for comfort, deeper penetration, and better allowance to hit her G-spot. This position allows for more freedom of movement for the man. In your free time, do some sit-ups to work the lower abdominal muscles, and maybe in time you'll be able to tighten and loosen your vaginal muscles around him.
 

A great position for inexperience is the "arch". The man sits in front of the woman with his legs folded under him (sitting on his knees). The woman lays on her back with her legs over the mans thighs or resting on his shouldes. Put a

pillow under her back for comfort, deeper penetration, and better allowance to hit her G-spot. This position allows for more freedom of movement for the man. In your free time, do some sit-ups to work the lower abdominal muscles, and maybe in time you'll be able to tighten and loosen your vaginal muscles around him.
 
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I believe doggy style is the position that makes men achieve orgasm quickest because of the full penetration and the walls of your vagina feel tighter. Also, you have to appear confident about yourself. Insecurities just turn men off and if you are coming across as insecure or self concious it could be a big turn off for him. Another thing that could be causing this is if he has any health issues or is taking any medications that delay orgasm. Also, he might be so used to masterbating that it is hard for him to now achieve orgasm with a sex partner. You just started having sex so this is the most likely cause of his problem.This happens to a lot of men, especially men in their 20's. I think you should explore all options and give it time, things should improve.

 

Well all you have to do is really be open to anything talk dirty just try different things.  A man is most honest when having sex and right after, trust me i am a guy.  Dont feel weird around him about discussing it.

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