This is one of the situations where there is no right or wrong. Your parents and friends might acccept her, but she has known all along how her parents stood on this matter right from the beginning. She should have been honest with you before your starting liking her so much, but she should have told her parents and discussed this situation from the beginning. A union between opposite races, and especially if you have children is very hard with the situation you have already even before you begin.You don't say how old you are, but I hope it's old enough to understand where her parents come from. Wait for your invitation to their house before you try to push them on this. It would be better all the way around, believe me.