I am in a tight dilemma. My problem in the secret ...

You have to be more elaborate. Where are her parents from?  Where are your parents from?  What are her parents' religion?  What are your parents' religion? Do you share your parents religious viewpoint, are you the same religion?  How about your girl, is she the same religion as her parents?

Ideally if would be nice for her to tell her parents about you.  She probably should but the specifics give insight as to why she hesitates.

If you can fill in the blanks you will get a much more informed answer rather than people saying off the top of their head - "yeah, she should introduce you" etc...  and in the meantime you are feeling like you're right while getting an ego fix at the same time.  If you really love this girl you don't want generic answers. Please be more specific.

And that's my opinion, mind you. Take it or leave it.

Best to you.

I don't need any specifics to offer an opinion on this. Regardless of race, creed or national origin, the answers to your question are time, patience and understanding. If both of you really want this to be a long term relationship you must give her all you can of these three things. It may be a day, a month, or a year, but if she feels as strongly as you, she will confront her family with the situation. If not, this is a relationship you don't want on a permanent basis anyway. You can't force her to do what she's not comfortable with but you can give her the three things she needs to come to closure. Best of luck and my wishes for a near term resolution.

Gary has given you good advice. "Confronting" this situation before she is ready is not a good idea. Everyone works through issues at their own pace. You have to be patient with her if you want her to trust your judgement. How you both work through this difficulty will determine alot about your relationship. You don't want her to feel you'll pressure her into making decisions when you think they should be made. Remember, calling her on this could cause more harm then good. Your fellings of sadness and anger are natural. Everyone wants to be accepted. You must remember though, if she is with you she feels she can work through this. The fear she is experiencing about her family/friends is a big wall to climb over. Try and support her. Enjoy your time with her and give her the encouragement she needs to face them. Good luck.

Greetings Ken:  I am guessing the concern is not different religions.  I am guessing her "very traditional" parents would have a problem with race?

I don't know Kay, Gary and Kelly who have responded prior to this, although the first post is a writing style most similar to JKGrandma, who typically offers sound advice.

My opinion is a bit different than the above.  I strongly believe relationships are not to be hidden!  The relationship is the two of you and not for the approval of her parents, your parents, or anyone else in this world.  The fact she has not introduced you to her family goes to show she's not independent in her own right and is still living her life for, (or through), her parents. 

I am guessing you might be mid 20's and she the same age?  Many couples at that age are married and established with families of their own.  You've not even met your girlfriend's family as yet?

I do not blame you for feeling sad or upset by any means.  You are not to be placed under a microscope for her parents examination.  They either like and respect you for who and what you are, or not at all.  It shouldn't make a difference either way, once again the relationship and its future is between you and your girlfriend, not her parents.

If you have discussed your feelings with her about this, and if she is unwilling to move forward with your lives and relationship, perhaps it's time to seek a new mate.

Wishing you the best Ken, but please do not hide from, (or for), anyone.  You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.  On the other hand, your girlfriend should be ashamed if she is supporting and hiding you from the bigotry I believe her parents possibly possess.  

What other logical reason could there be?  Anyone may adapt their religion, but nobody may change their race.  Don't let her parent's racial issues stand in the way of your happiness and future. 

Arrivederci      

Dear Ken, In my opinion you should look at clues from your girl as to why isn't she following her heart and "trust" whatever she is feeling for you to be her guidance...I advise you to don't "push" things...let them be! remember: "what you resist, persists" so perhaps is the negative vibration in your desperation what is preventing her to act and confront her parents once and for all...On the other side, She has to do whatever she needs to do when her inner guidance tells her so! Please relax! and trust that EVERYTHING in the universe happens for a good reason! ALL THE TIME! even if @ first it seems not fair or brakes our heart, in time you will know why...Once you release the attention you are giving the issue, it will flow like a river who must take its course...If you are truly following your heart, and she is following hers, all should work out the way it has to, for all must follow "the order" of the Cosmo (Cosmo=ORDER)  Visualize how you want things to come out, and TRUST! no action is nedded! Hope it helps! No matter what the religion or race, there's only ONE God, Source, Divine Guidance,Universal Intelligence, or however else you want to call it! key is to BELIEVE!

Hello wisest, since you don't know me, please allow me to introduce myself. I'm gary999 (but I'm ok with just plain gary) and I'm responding to your post because I believe you have taken a complex situation and oversimplified it with the advice you have given below;

"I strongly believe relationships are not to be hidden!  The relationship is the two of you and not for the approval of her parents, your parents, or anyone else in this world.  The fact she has not introduced you to her family goes to show she's not independent in her own right and is still living her life for, (or through), her parents." 

This works well if you are referring to an American (for example black vs white) where young people are encouraged to go their own way and make their own decisions, assuming parential guidelines are being followed. However, in other countries, other socities are very different when it comes to relationships and marriage. For example, I have a friend (WASP) who fell in love with a Korean girl and they went thru the process. For several years the relationship occured in total secrecy, when the family discovered the relationship it wasn't just a matter of "I don't approve of your choice", she was threatened with being disowned. Her father told her "if you pursue this don't ever come back to this house or contact any family member ever again". In addition, he immediately arranged a marriage to a Korean man, set a date for the wedding and gave her a choice, be there for your wedding or say goodbye to your family forever.

It's my opinion, from reading amped's post, this is closer to the situation he's dealing with. The girl may face banishment or in some Muslim countries death for disobeying/embarrasing the family. He may wish it was as simple as you make it but I'll let him comment on that if he so chooses.

PS; the Korean girl chose her family over my friend and has an extremely unhappy marriage but is back in good graces with the family.

I read your comment about jk and while there may be a lot of jk's, there's only one real "jk".

Greetings Gary:  Thank you for the introduction.  Based on the question as submitted by Ken, my advice stands.  Any response may be oversimplified, the individual submitting the question, in this case Ken, will read responses and utilize singular or collective information to make a decision which fits their personal situation.   

I've no idea what you're attempting to imply regarding "jk."  I've read and posted behind jkgrandma on other questions, until yesterday I'd not reviewed comments by jkaydin.  My point was, jkaydin has a writing style quite similar to that of jkgrandma.

Arrivederci 

Well, "oh wisest one" I can't speak for Gary, but as you stated, you have rebutted JKGrandmas' opinion and then proceeded to turn Chipmucks" question into your own personal little forum about JKs" opinion. You stated "The individual will read and utilize singular or collective information to make a decision which fits their personal situation". Perhaps next time you decide to demean someone because you don't like their style, take a look at your own responces to others. Oh yes, let me introduce myself, I'm Kelly, and I had to take this opportunity to tell you, that although you have portrayed yourself as a wealthly philanthropist, your bitterness far outweighs your virtue.