How Do You Save A Relationship You're Afraid Will Not Work Out?

You have been friends for a long time so you  should know this man fairly well. Is this in his normal character or is it due to the stress of the baby. Give your relationship some time. Definatly don't jump into marriage expecting that will fix things but just don't totally throw the relationship out the door. The 2 of you have many years together or not because you are parents. Seek some counsling. Also pick your battles wisely. If its not worth fighting over let it go... don't fight over petty things. Only you can determine how you feel. You make your self happy or sad or mad. Lighten up and smile enjoy your baby and hopefully the happiness with start to rub off on him

God bless and good luck

I want to reply with advise that has made it better for me when I am in the same situation you explained, Often my husband and I become very hostile disrespectful and fustrated with one and other...I found that reading any article I find regarding anger, Relationship issues, Emotions, ect...I seem to view and feel differently and I begin to become more congenial and humanitarian like towards what I like to call " Marriage Drama" Having more of an acceptable attitude towards reasons why people are and respond like they do in relationships helps me to calm down and accept, Look at it this way, He was not programmed by fate to be perfect for you. Yes I know your thinking but "I am not here to babystep through emotions for a grown man. But the fact is no matter who it is you have difficulty with everyone responds and acts the way they do not because they intentionally planned it that way but because of enviromental forces beyond their control, Exposure to others slack, rudeness, Stupidity. And lack of comtiplative time to adjust what they themselves finally had time to realize they are like, That expecially happens when we get so cought up in life. Life with our loved ones and also individually within ourself.

No respect,no love,no marriage. The baby is the focus of this relationship and it would appear that after ten years in a relationship this would be what both of you need to realize. You will probably not be able "to do what is right for everyone" but you must do what is right for the baby. Some men do not deal with "accidental" births very well and it is possible that he isn't equipped to be lover and father.I would suggest you seek counselling before continuing this relationship to another level. Ten years is a very long time to be in a relationship and still have the problems the two of you have. That baby doesn't need this environment!