i hope that i don't hurt your feelings; it seems as though you have been hurt enough already. However, there are several things available to treat ed now and procuring them should not be a problem. As a female it seems to me that your wife was just using that as an excuse. realize that you are a valuable human being and move on. See a doc for meds & I'm sure you'll meet someone who values you. Best of luck & just be yourself; your best self!