Restrain love

Hi,

No, don't hold back feelings. You need to be honest w/ how your feeling or else your setting yourself up for problems. Just say- you are falling for someone but she doesn't feel the same and is just hanging around cause you's are having fun and there aren't any "commitments" being made. If you don't say anything, your feelings are just going to get deeper and then when you are honest about them, you'll be even more crushed. If your honest now, it won't be as hard. Follow me? Honesty is the best policy- really it is =)

NO!!!!  ( and I have an ex-husband to prove this...)

When you start a relationship, you are potentially embarking on a long term journey....this could mean years of dating, or possibly marriage.  Why would you not want to be completely honest with the person you're seeing?  If you are looking for marriage someday, you should say so.  If you're just playing the field, you should say so, too; otherwise, you are setting yourself up for a really messy break up, hurt feelings, etc.  For example, if your partner loves Chinese food and you don't, don't lie!  You will find yourself up to your elbows in sesame chicken for the duration of your relationship!  Or potentially building a relationship on "things you have in common" that are not really there! Not being completely honest with someone is just plain silly when you're trying to build something with someone; it kind of falls under the category of a game, and is just not smart when you are involving feelings.  The truth always comes out in the end; don't you want to be on the "good" side of the equation?

Hi,

I read your answer and wanted your opinion on something. Do you think there are cases where it is good to open up slowly to a person?. I agree with you that you shouldn't be dishonest but perhaps there are cases where things should go at a slow pace. 

I guess depending on the relationship or situation, it is good to open up slowly. I mean you do have to protect yourself too. I don't know, its kinda hard saying. Do you have certain reasons you want to open up slowly?