I warn you...This is complicated. I have recently got a new part-time job at a restaraunt as a waitress, though during the summer it's practically full-time. One guy I am working with has made it obvious that he is interested in me and has recently asked me out. He's 2 years older than me and he's a nice guy but he just acts incredibly immature for his age and I'm not interested in a relationship with him. I really don't want to be harsh and just bluntly say 'no' because I know it could really hurt his feelings, so I've just said that I'm busy in the hope that he'll the message, but I'm not sure that he has.
I'm feeling a bit guilty as I'm someone who is quite open and bubbly in conversations which many guys mistake for flirting (sometimes it is) and I think I have lead him on without meaning to. I don't really know what the best thing to do is - I have to work with him tommorow night and I'm not really sure how to act. If I be myself I will just be seen to him as flirting and I don't want to confuse him, I also don't know what to say if he asks me to go somewhere with him again. He is the managers son so doing things in the wrong way could prove to have big consequences! To confuse things even more I'm actually really interested in another guy that I work with but I have no idea if he likes me or whether he is just a really friendly person. I am not very confident in relationships as I haven't much experience - I'm seventeen, and the experience I have had hasn't done much for my self-esteem. But I really want to move on and I feel ready to have a relationship.
I have never met anybody like this guy...but im scared that if he was interested and we ended up going out that I'd mess it up because of my insecurity. He's really good looking and is in that popular stereotype which doesn't usually do anything for me but what attracts me most is his modesty and maturity and the way he can talk openly and have a laugh - but i never would think that he would be interested in someone like me just because I don't believe in myself much - even though many people think I act like I do. I kind of feel that if I was with him I'd feel intimidated by his looks and think that other people would be wondering why someone like him would ever want to be with someone like me. So should I steer clear and just let it be or should I go for it?
I don't want to hurt the others guy's feelings by saying no to him and then going out with someone else at work....any ideas? And do you think it's a bad idea getting involved with someone at work? I'm worried that things could go very wrong here, and I could go from really enjoying the work experience to having a complete nightmare. But I really care about this guy, and about not hurting the others feelings and I could do with some help in how to find out if the guy im interested in feels the same way.
Any suggestions asap would be helpful as i haven't got much time to think about it...anything will be appreciated!
Thanks!
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