How do I deal with my wifes romantic past? She was ...

Talk to her about it in a calm manner and let her know how it made you feel in a calm and unaccusing manner.  It may not have been what your mind is making it out to be. She married you, not them.  Communication is the most important part of a marriage. It will help avoid future problems or put the cards on the table.

You need to talk to your wife that it bothers you when she looks at her ex-lovers' pictures.   She should respect how you feel.  You cannot deal with her romantic past, it's the past.  You cannot help that.

If she still does not listen to what you have to say, then you should consult a marriage counselor.

Take care.

Jeraudi,

Marriage is based on faith & trust. If there are things that bother you? You need to discuss this issue with your wife, just as you wife should discuss her concerns with you. Treat others how you want to be treated and I would expect that your wife would be upset if the shoe was on the other foot.

With that said, if you have allowed your wife to think this and other destructive behavior is acceptable, then you have bigger problems. Temptation and or infidelity may be entering into your relationship, so look for the signs of infielity and make a decison one way or the other.

Infidelity Checklist:

• • Has a problem when you answer their phone.
  • Private or discreet cell phone conversations.
  • Has a separate account(s) (Bank, phone & email).
  • Spends more $money$ in cash (ATM) & credit card.  
  • More attention to appearance (Diet, clothes & GYM)
  • Odor of cologne/perfume.
  • Changed attitude and distant.
  • Sex drive/Bedroom intimacy is abnormal. 
  • Trips with the friends (guys or girls).
  • Comes home late, maybe with liquor on breath.
  • Computer use increases and has private passwords.
  • Caught on online dating sites.
  • Spending more time at work or work related events.
  • Trust your gut instinct & have OUR-EYEZ be yours.

God Bless and good luck...

Best regards,

Douglas Jarmon- (Investigator 4 LOVE)

http://www.Catching-Cheaters.com

Corinthian Group:Private Investigations & Personal Protection/PI #23070

Why was she looking at pictures and was she doing it in front of you ? Obviously it bothers you so you need to tell her it does .  She needs to respect your feelings , and not hurt you .  If she loves you as a wife should she will forget the pictures of the x lovers .

I had the same question as the post above me, why would she be looking at them and was she doing it in front of you or did you just catch her looking at them without her knowing? She is your wife and should not be doing that because it is disrespectful to you. You really do need to sit down with her and ask why she was looking at them. Explain to her that it hurt you to see her doing that as it would if you were looking at pictures of your ex-lovers. Was everything going well in the marriage prior to this? Sometimes people also do things for attention to make others jealous, you really need to talk this one over, good luck

Many people like to keep pictures. Maybe she was going through her pictures album and was just looking at the ex-lovers pictures as she turned the pages.  Are there any reasons for you to believe that she have a desire for her ex-lovers?  If you totally trust her, try to be positive and think nothing of it.  Just observe and if it happens frequently, you should tell her that you noticed her viewing the pictures on a regular basis.  The right communication is the key to your marriage success so think before you speak…  It just might be the time for a romantic vacation and take many pictures to make a new picture album of you and her...

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