My questions are in bold print
Im so confused and baffled. I need advice badly!
I’m in my early twenties, but I’m really mature for my age. I’m very nice, genuine and loving person. I always go the extra mile for my man. If its three o’clock in the morning and he wants his feet rub. I would have no problem rubbing them for him. I cook and clean. But my flaws are sometimes being spoiled and a perfectionist. Every time I meet a guy, who likes me. He ends up hurting me and leaving me, but always wants to remain friends. Here are several situations……
Guy 1: He was my first love “puppy love”. Everything between us was great!!!! But overtime we both matured and were going down two separate roads in life. After 2 ½ years, we decided to be friends and until this day we’ve remained friends.
Guy 2: We dated for a while and eventually moved in with each other. We’ve only dated for 3 months before moving in with each other; I know it was too soon, but due to the circumstances we had to. Everything was perfect. We had plans of getting married and eventually having children. Anyhow 7 months within the relationship he started working at a night club. From there things started going downhill. He began to receive randomly phone calls from didn’t females etc. This caused us to have a lot of arguments. Long story short he eventually broke up with me. Then a few days later I found out he was cheating on me with one of my peers. Once I told him I know he cheated on me. I never seen or heard from him again. But then a few months later he called my best friend, because he wanted to introduce her to his new girlfriend. What was his purpose of doing that? Was it to make me jealous? Why cheat? Why lie? Why hurt someone you care about?
Guy 3: I’ve known this guy since high school and ever since high school he’s tired to date me, but I never gave him the time of day. A few months after graduating we lost contact. Then four years later he showed up at my mothers’ house. We rekindled and every thing was going just fine. We had a few disagreements here and there, but nothing major. We seen and spoke with one another every day. But once I went back to college, I found out he was engaged for three years. After speaking with his fiancé, I was a little baffled. I couldn’t understand how someone could waste their time, energy and money for so long to accomplish nothing. He chased me for so many years, and finally had the chance to win me over, but he was engaged. Why, go through all the hassle, confusion and arguments just to keep up a lie. After I spoke to her, I never heard from him again. Why cheat? Why lie? Why hurt someone you care about.
There were other guys but nothing too serious. But they wanted to remain friends. All of these guys are in their early twenties. What’s wrong with them? Or is it me? What am I doing wrong? Am I putting too much trust in these guys? Maybe, I should try dating older men, such as men in their mid-twenties or early thirties. Guy 1 is Caucasian and both guy 2 and 3 are African American. It seems like when I dated outside of my race things were always great. Then as soon as I dated outside of my race the both guy 2 & 3 treated me so badly. I don’t meant to bring race into the picture, but after comparing these guys it seems like perhaps race does play a role.
Where are the mature, faithful, loving and caring men?????????????
