What to do...? Relationship problems...

I waded through all the details about you and she and she and you and on and on. You are both emotionally exhausted in each other's company and need a lo-o-o-ng. lo-o-ng, lo-o-ong break. You re both young and have a lot to learn and you only learn through experience. Both of you should start dating others and stop thinking and comparing about each other. You might find after a year or so that you have each been able to develop a deeper and more meaningful relationship with others OR you might also find that after all the dating you still love each other and will be able to develop a deeper appreciation and love for each other without recrimination and accusations. I wish you both much success for the future.

Hi,

    I agree with Rock 100%.  I will give him 2 thumbs up for that.   Very nice advice.   In addition to what he said,  I think you two are very immature and need more  rest time from the dating scene to clear up your minds.  You are very young to sustain a serious long term relationship based on love , patience, and tolerance.  All the things that you both did were all pure childish, trying to retaliate and to get back at each other, hurt the other person emotionally.  It will probably take 5-6 years before you are going to reach the emotional maturity that is a very important ingredient to form a successful marriage.  In the meantime, I suggest that both of you should get busy improving yourself, getting a good education and building a profession and a career that will make you more financially stable and more desirable and also being able to contribute positively to the society as a whole.  Young people are the pillars of society and  the hope of a greater nation.  So it is really very important for the younger generation to be guided in the right direction in life.  I come from the Philippines and I see a great  difference of the teenagers here in America and other Asian countries.  The priority of people your age here  in America is mostly about sex, sex, drugs, alcohol  and teenage pregnancy whereas when we were growing up, our priority was to finish college and to become professionals, and boyfriends came later, because we thought we could find a better man when we graduate from college.

     There are so many teenagers your age who don't finish college.  This country provides student loans, so there is no excuse for people here to be poor or underprivileged.  There is no reason why professionals from Asia and other countries would come to the U.S. to fill the job vacancies in Nursing, Engineering, Medicine, Medical Technologists and scientists.  If kids like you are guided properly in their life direction, you will have a surplus of all these professionals and there will be no room for foreigners like me.

     You are young enough to be my son, I'm 54 but I did not have any children.  If you were my son, I will advise you to go on with your life, get busy preparing yourself to be a better person so that you will be proud of yourself being able to contribute to this society and not  being a liability like a lot of these kids now.  I don 't know how you will take this advice.  I am sure you did not expect this kind of response from somebody in Yedda but that is how I really feel about young people who are misguided and waste their precious time doing crazy things  that get them nowhere.  I hope you and your friend the best of luck  and success in life.

WOW, I read your problem and question, my best advice from a female point of vew is that you two need to splin up you. You to will never be able to trust eachother completly. that will onley lead to more hirt feelings, betrayel, and drama.  Im sorry to say this but you to are not helthey for eachother.  

It is true about girls craving attention, but if she went to the extreme to make another guy think she is going to sleep with him to get the attention she is wanting she will go farther whin it comes down to it.  You have every reason not to trust her. I wouldent.  I understand having ishews but that is no reason to leed someone on.  If her hart was truley into you she would have never done that no mater how much she needed the atention.  If she would lead someone else on like that what is stoping her from doing the same to you. Oh and you sayed that she was willind to beleve that you didnt cheat on her so that in return has made you feel like you should bleve her, here is another point of vew the reason she is so willing to beleve you is becouse she has allready cheated on you and is feeling guiltey for it, and she is wanting to hide the fact that she has and is using reverse phicolagy on you. To kinda gult you into beliveng her, and not looking in to the fact that she may have cheated on you to much. eater way it goes your trust has bed broke for eachother, those lines haven ben crosed, and now you to should count it as a loss, and go your seprate wayes. 

I hope that helpes