Ever hear the saying "Love is blind"? People in lovecan'tsee the forest for the trees, nor can they see what is right in front of them. Don't be so hard on this poor, deluded, and deceived woman.

I personally think that you can not help who you love I am sure when the relationship started this gal had no idea what she was getting herself into, once you love someone it is hard to turn the clock back.  The fact that he had sex with his wife is a mute point did she think he was totally over her, maybe he 'needed' to make sure.  Whether or not he can be trusted is still in the cards that is to be found out over time, I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater people an change and they do, to the original poster sweetie keep your chin up if you love this man you have to make the decision on what you feel in your heart just beware that you could get hurt but that is the chance we all take when we love someone.

I agree with Elden.  This woman doesn't say anything about not knowing that he was married when she started the relationship.  I agree that the guy's a jerk and most definitely can't be trusted, but she has to take responsibility too.  If she was sleeping with him while he was married, she knew that he was cheating on his wife, whether the marriage was on the rocks or not.  I find it ironic that she seems so indignant about his "cheating on her with his wife.  As far as love being blind, what about Mary Kay LeTourno (sp), the teacher who "fell in love" with her 13 year old student, had babies by him and continued her affair with him after she was prosecuted and banned from seeing him?  Just because the poster posed the question, and because the guy's obviously a jerk, doesn't make her an innocent victim.

I certainly did not mean to say she was an innocent victim only that sometimes we get in too deep before we realize what is going that is all, these kinds of situations are what they are and we should not judge...