Right or wrong? I guess you need to ask yourself where this marriage is going. Some people are willing to divorce because they are bored or simply want their freedom. To me, this could be the wrong decision, since your vows are sacred. On the other hand, abuse, manipulation, lying or cheating falls into the category of divorce. You say your wife is the same after counseling. If she is unfair or unfaithful to you, I would say that you are going nowhere in this marriage. Some people say you should work things out. I was once divorced too, but the other partner had no intentions of changing. He abused me, spent money we didn't have, and everything that came out of his mouth was a lie. I struggled too, thinking that he would change and I could help him do it. Nope, TWO people have to work at a marriage, not ONE. If you are the only one trying to repair this, I think you will be much happier moving along. BTW...I am now happily married over 21 years..We have respect for each other and are up front about everything. Sure. stuff comes up, but you have to believe in one another to get through it. Good Luck!!