Relationship on the Rocks...

Do you have a brother luis

I don't know how old you are, but from the sound of it you are not a teenager that has fallen in love for the first time. It sounds to me that this relationship is heading for trouble and now is the time to call it quits. You have no major commitments (children), he doesn't have a job, you are having problems with his mother, and you are depressed. The handwriting is on the wall. Get out of this relationship and enjoy your life!

Hi there

He isn't taking any kind of drugs is he?  Sometimes when people do that they seem disinterested in everything.  Has he got a history of depression at all?

Imagine your best girlfriend told you the following things about her boyfriend;

"We've been on the rocks for a few months"

"My bf comes over to visit spontaneously alot less"

"he sort of expects it now"

"He hardly calls anymore"

"Whenever i am sad he doesnt even notice"

"His mother has started to be very bitchy to me"

"Whenever i ask him about why he didn't come over ... he gets very angry"

"i cant stand the sight of him and i want to vomit when he asks for money."

"He tells me he'd do anything for me, lose weight, get a job, but it never seems to happen."

Would you advise her to hang in there and everything will be all right. He just needs time, understanding, patience or etc. I doubt it, and you already know the right answer to your questions. It won't be easy but ask yourself if you'd  be better off with, or without this relationship and when you answer this question you'll know what to do.

It seems that you and your bf have grown apart but that's life and try to be familiar with this. People come and go and sometimes its a good thing that they do. If it is meant for them to be in your life they will stay and if not they will go. As time go by you will heal allow the healing to take place and release him. Why would you be in a relationship and the other person doesnt feel the same way you feel towards them? Let it go and move on let the healing start.  

Get rid of him and look for the right man. You are better than nothing to him and it won't get any better.

This man is a waste of space. You say you want to throw up when he asks you for money so this can't end well can it?! This man is using you and you should take your own advice: "Hun, dont ever pin your happiness on a man. You need to be happy with yourself. This guy of yours sounds like a total prick and a user. You need to get rid of him." 

The longer you leave it, the harder it'll get. Either that or you'll do what I did years ago, get so frustrated that you end it cruelly because you can't cope with the indifference and complacency anymore. Oh, and tell his mother to bugger off and leave you two to it!