I was recently in a relationship....Talk about love....We did everything together. We met when we both was on disability like 2 1/2 years ago, neither of us was looking for a relationship. We started spending alot of time together as friends then we both fell in LOVE.He was my everything. After about 1 year I realized that it was time for me to find me a job, and face the real world again my job whom I was on disability for had relocated to another state. So basically I had to start from scratch. I started spending less time with him and I had a million and 1 billsat least it felt like that. I did not know how to juggle the 2 bills and the relationship. So I eneded the relationship. Well actually it ended on its on. I was busy trying to find a job and I think I was more so nervous than anything. All this talk about the economy, I have a son and I live on my own so I refuse to let the bills get too far out of whack.....I couldnt go to him for finacial help because like I said earlier we were both on disability. So at this point I felt like I needed all my time to find me a job and get myself together. So we drifted apart from one another. Now basically i got a job doing ok for myself again. But i dont have him anymore. He seem to not understand my situation at all. We still talk every couple of days. He still say he is in love with me but he keeps himself so distant from me. we spend time ever so often. Im still in love with him but I dont know what to do it seem like I explained this story over and over to him. What should I do any advice
Always protect your heart and listen to yourself make good choices. be careful for what you wish for you just might get it and find out later it was not what you wanted after all.
Hello Strawberry.
I agree with butterscotch that was a great answer that hit the nail on the head, love comes in many forms it may not always be the one that we want but it can still be rewarding I hope you will find your true love I'm still looking.
Take care
Pat
Drop him. You've decided to move on with your life and responsibilities. He hasn't or can't. You.doing the right thing, believe me.
You tried to explain your situation to him and he's failing to understand. It seems like he's not taking the effort to understand and acting like he's a victim. I think he needs to see things from YOUR point of view and realize that just because you two were together you were not required to tend to his every need; your needs and the needs of your CHILD come first.
Your direction,not your intention,determines your destination
"There's no use beating a dead horse", as the old saying goes. Him being on disability should have made him realize how you felt with a child and bills piling up. He didn't expect you to ask him did he? If you had, he would of probably called you lazy and maybe a few more. This I can't swear too because I don't know him personally. It seemed he would have been proud of you and would have encouraged you. Maybe he got T'd because you couldn't spend all your time with him anymore.Isn't some of the time you have for him now better than nothing? If he can't understand this I would seriously question his love and whether I wanted to continue having him in my life.You sound like a brave woman,and you will meet someone who respects and loves you and your child when the time is right.
Thank you all for all the advice that was provided by all yall here on YEDDA.... I just wanted to give yall an update...I got a job been having it for a year now...passed the probation period....WHEW....that's a relief...I'm in school going part time with the hopes of starting my own business....My son is doing great ....Oh yea and the guy he's fine at least from what he tells me...We has talked about getting back together at times...I'm not ready for that anymore I don't think...lol And he still haven't been back to work......Thanks for all ya'll advice.....I appreciate it soooo much.....MUAH!!!
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