It's hard being alone and raising a child. I raised 4 and it was the hardest thing i ever did. My hats off to you.Work was also very important to me also..If you don't work there's no roof over your head or food in the cupboard. I also am a independant woman. Now with that said...You have a good man that loves you...seems you love him also...don't let this get away from you..Girl you don't want to end up like me..I'm 63 and been alone for 20 yrs. children grown and no close friends..I haven't been as my good fortune  to have found a good man..in your relationship there was the element of communication missing...it's hard to learn how to share our burdens after having to do it for ourselves for so long..but make a effort to really talk with your man..let him know he's Loved and needed. He may very well have a trust issue because you put him to the side before. I bet that hurt him to the quick...asure him it will never happen again...do what you have to to make it right....Blessings, Veronica