Relationship Problems.....

sounds like he may be a tad bit jealous of you and maybe had his ego bruised.  Many men have an issue with women in their lives doing better than them financially.  They also like to see themselves as the caretaker to women.  They want to be the ones taking care of the family.  Im not including all men, but most.  He may just be jealous, and have a bit of a bruised ego with your independence.  If he was truely "in love" with you, he'd be happy for you and support you.  I'd question this man.  Ask him flat out if he feels insecure with you at this point.  But in my opinion, i think he already does and you need to think of you and your child first.  If a man cant be happy for you in a situation like that....then he's too selfish to be with you and your child anyway

Hi Strawberry, ----------- Very sad..... You should told him, at that time, that your first priority in the near future would be to find a job (and explain to him why is it your first priority) and should told him that you hope he understands that you'll give less attention to him and spend less time with him..... and at the same time promise him that it says nothing about what you feel about him and you assure him about your love and being faithfull to him.... As you didn't do it he, most probably, mis-understood you and decided that "actions speak louder than words" and you actually moved on without saying a nice goodbye..... He was deeply insulted or even hurt by you !. As you can't reverse time the only option for you to bring your relations back to track is to write him a honest loving letter (or e-mail). Tell him exactly what you feel and what happened. Tell him you love him, never stopped loving him, that you were 100% faithfull to him, and only had to devote all your time and efforts to find a job.... Tell him he mis-read the situation and ran too far in his conclusions. Add some warm words, heart-2-herat, make him feel good, appologize, send him: love huges and kisses, and write that you seal your notes with tears of love.... He'll have to be made od stone not to melt by this.... ------------ Best regards,

Men don't understand the whole"need to get my life together right now..no time for a relationship" situation because they handle things differently than we do. He is probably thinking if you really loved and cared about him you would have stayed with him through the stressful times. And he has every right to feel this way. I can see how he fails to understand the situation as it was never explained to him in the beginning. When you finally decided to take the time to explain, it was too little too late (in his mind). It's time to stop explaining the past(which he will never understand anyway) and start focusing on the present by telling him your feelings.... that,although there was a period of time you were apart, your heart was always with him and is still with him. Express your feelings and see if he is willing to give the relationship another chance.

2 thumbs up OronD !  Strawberry , Open your heart to this Man and do it today , we never know what tomorrow may bring .  

It's hard being alone and raising a child. I raised 4 and it was the hardest thing i ever did. My hats off to you.Work was also very important to me also..If you don't work there's no roof over your head or food in the cupboard. I also am a independant woman. Now with that said...You have a good man that loves you...seems you love him also...don't let this get away from you..Girl you don't want to end up like me..I'm 63 and been alone for 20 yrs. children grown and no close friends..I haven't been as my good fortune  to have found a good man..in your relationship there was the element of communication missing...it's hard to learn how to share our burdens after having to do it for ourselves for so long..but make a effort to really talk with your man..let him know he's Loved and needed. He may very well have a trust issue because you put him to the side before. I bet that hurt him to the quick...asure him it will never happen again...do what you have to to make it right....Blessings, Veronica

i dont know the seriouseness of the injuries?but if you got your life some what back on track.everything takes time.he should understand your working.your total time is not as is it once was.you have a chil to worry about providing for.that comes 1 st above all else.yourself&self asteem,over-comming &injury.i dot know the injury.but there no picnic.everyone thinks,people who are out hurt have it made.do what u want,ect?if they only realy new the real deal.i say,if u can handle the employment&take care of your child,thats all self asteem ,pluss,but if your hurtingdoing the job&forcing yourself through pyhsical paine.that will bring u down.but if your cool,with all,then my dear!as i know,personaly=time heals all,wounds,it takes time,lotts-dont rebound-though.keep your head high&move fourth.you desrve the best.you pulld yourself together&u have a true blood relation to care for.the rest falls into place.me im waiting for the rest to fall into place,im still single,so everthing takes time,best of luck,mike,if it helps,if your meant to be it will happen.if not,you were hurt&he was 2,u met through disabilty-u cant brig yourself down to that level-he has to except your free time.or loss of interest??its life,it happens..good luck mike 

well my advice would be find a guy who understands u..i mean one that will help u and understand u if u need time alone to think and work things out..

Hi:  He says he still loves you but he keeps himself at a distance.  Does that sound like the relationship is on solid ground?  No, it doesn't.  Yes, I believe that you both had a great thing going in the beginning, but as life changed, so did your relationship. (Not your fault or his, it often can just happened like that).  If this relationship was on solid ground or was meant for the two of you to be together forever, you both would still be together and would be making plans to be together.  I believe he loves you, Yes, but there are all kinds of love and there are different degree of love. Being that he is keeping himself at a distance, shows that he is uncertain of where this relationship is going.  Under the circumstances, of being so far apart, this is to be expected. I suspect that over time, the two of you will decide "together" what you really want from each other and what you want in life and if you want to share that life together.  No one can answer that for you -- only the two of you can do that.  Sometimes love last forever and sometimes love has a season -- you have enriched each other's life and that is a wonderful thing.  Again, only the two of you -- over time -- will know if you are truly meant to be together.