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this is not advise by any means .this is just how it went for me.this is a long story, i shortend it as much as possible .i had worked the same job for 20 years .i only answered to the plant manager ,i knew my job ,made good money and did it well.i had it made .time for a new manager , which happened every 3 years or so .there was something about this guy i noticed the moment i was first introduced to him.just couldn't put my finger on it.i had been through this type of change before ,i knew what to expect (i thought).i had always been the type to do my job and then some.thats the way i was raised .i took pride in it.in the proccess of doing that (my job), i started getting some negative feedback from this guy.i couldn't understand .i was doing what i was supposed to do and even more.this was always pleasing to previous managers , but he didn't like it.i kinda threw that off for a little while and just kept on doing my thing.then all at once , i get called to his office with a long list of things he doesn't like about me and how i do things.basically he told me that i didn't know how to do my job ( after 20 yrs) and he had a new plan for me ,which involved him controlling my every move.i was to only do my job,no more and no less .according to him ,my 20 yrs experience was meaningless and his high intellect and 8 yrs with the company was much more valueble. OK....so i set out to prove to him that i was worth something.it didn't matter what i did , he was right and i was wrong.found out ,that this was happening to almost everyone .this went on for 2 1/2 years. one thing after another .i could successfully prove to him that i knew what i was doing ,but it still didn't matter.i watched as other employees fell victim to his arogance and lost their composer.i was determined that i was not going to let it get to me like that .several people were leaving the company ,some voluntary,some not.i was not a happy camper.i thought, i can't change him, i'll just wait it out until the next manager comes along .iv'e delt with people like this before, just not quite as nasty as this one .i was dealing with some other issues outside of work at the time(my grandfather was dying slowly ,and within 3 months past away which brought up some deep emotions about my dads untimely death)ignoring him became much more difficult.well one lead to another, he found the right buttons to push and then it happened .I SNAPPED!!!!!!!! i couldn't control my mouth any longer.i began to tell him exactly what i thought about him (i did this more than once).BAD MISTAKE!! he is getting ammo , i'm getting write up's ,he's using his authority to make my work life as miserible as he can possibly make it....HE WON! i did exactly what he wanted.i blew up .he had full control of me now .thats what it's all about ,control.what made it worse .i was 42 at the time i knew better.he was 4 years younger and he had me .he took away everythng about my job that i enjoyed and i mean everything incuding my office. because i brought my misery home with me ,it made my family life difficult and it was starting to really have a negative impact on my marriage. my wife had begged me to quit that job for over a year ,but i didn't want to give up the money.things just got worse.i was eventually so drained by this (BECAUSE I LET HIM GET TO ME) that i had to check out.i'm mad at myself for letting it get that far,but what's done is done.i am much happier and alot less stressed now that i'm not surrounded by that.my wife even said she could tell a difference the first week on my new job.on a positive note: i found out alot about myself and how NOT to deal with difficult people.most importantly , the experience brought me closer to GOD than iv'e been in years.oh by the way , he got a second tour of duty as manager.i've been gone from there almost a year now.