Problems in marriage

Don’t forget that your mind is still your greatest sexual organ.
Sometimes focusing on your marriage relationship and intimacy will do miracles
for any physical issues that you are dealing with.

You and your wife must agree that you BOTH want to save the marriage. Once that is done you should both undergo a physical examination. After that you should look for someone who could help you with marriage counseling. I wish both of you all the best. Breaking up a marriage could leave a lot of damage behind.

 Rosie and Norman have both given you good answers . Yes your wife could have a health issue , both of you should have a complete physical rule out any health issues .  If she receives a clean bill of health then there's other reasons .  And with all due respect the problem in your marriage is not the lack of physical intimacy . Intimacy is a direct reflection of the state of your relationship . Other problems in your relationship with your wife is the cause for the lack of intimacy . When a woman loves a man and she feels and knows he loves , respects , values and  cherish's her, she wants to make love with him , she wants to please him and willingly gives herself to him heart , body , mind and soul . Intimacy to us women starts in our head , something is not right in your relationship outside of the bedroom .  Communication is the key here , find out what the real problem is in your relationship and the intimacy problem will solve itself .  Seek professional help if need be , find out what is going on in your wife's heart and head in relationship to you . I hope you save your marriage .

Yes, yours is not the only sex-starved marriage. Be clear that a woman's sexual needs are far less than a man's. That imbalance creates the problems that you are referring to. In spite of sex researchers, like Masters and Johnson, it is difficult to correct this imbalance. Most therapist recommend masturbation, which in most instances works out as an adquate substitute for sex. More on this on my website.

That can be a problem that you both have to over come as it could be that you are dowing something wrong all you can do is find out what the problem is and possably work it out with out involving  a physical examination or a marriage counseling as there advice is not always right. First you have to work on the problem as a couple Sometimes focusing on your marriage relationship and intimacy will do miracles if you choose to work at it but you must work at it all the time as trust in your partner is an important issue so sit down as a couple and see if you can work as a couple. As it is hard to do but this means talking things out as a couple.

Don't worry about the sex as you call it. Your main concern is how to save your marriage; get it right and sex will come along or it usually does. What has happened to your marriage? Was it a good marriage at one time? When? How long ago? What were you doing then to make it a good one? Ask your partner to take a look back also. What changed? I know sex is important and you want to get back to that as soon as you can, but there are many roadblocks in then way. If you both begin to look back and consider how you have changed maybe you can change back to some of the good old ways. That is one way to start. You have been given some good advise in earlier answers also. Consider those. Are you treating each other with respect or are you argueing; how is your homelife? How could you help to improve it? Think about what you could personally do to help your companion to feel good and positive toward you. Do you help your partner or do you expect her to do all  the work around the house? Sex begins in the morning; not a bedtime. Have you considered that? Start showing love in the morning with kindness and helpfulness. Have you ever taken your partner out to lunch? or Dinner? Ever done the things you used to do when you were dating? Ever go out together on a martial date? Why not? Why should your partner want to have sex with you? Just because you are married? That sure is a romantic answer. Not good enough. After you have fixed your marriage, then work on fixing SEX if it needs fixing. There is counseling, therapy, medical doctors can provide hormones for women and men to create desire, and in the end both of you have to want to make this marriage work.

Start with that question. Sit down and discuss it. Do both of you sincerely love each other and want to work together to make this marriage a success? It can happen if you both want it to.