First I would talk to her..but I would also go on the HIPAA website, there are certain laws you know, you have to sign off for permission to release your records.

I don't know why you wouldn't want her to access your records, since they are related to each other? I think you're barking up the wrong tree.

You're making too much of a big deal out of something that doesn't require that much energy....maybe this is an issue you need to deal with. No offense.