Premature committment

Here is one example of the many balanced rocks in America.

Here is an unbalanced rock.

The individual that you describe belongs in the second group.

I am not at all sure that knowing his thinking and reaons would you achieve closure here. Let me rephrase the the first of AA's 12 steps. (Read this out loud.)

I admitted that I was powerless over this jerk, that my life had become unmanageable.

I will close with a paraphrase from E. B. Browning

How can I use thee? Let me count the ways.
I use thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, the feeling is just right
For the ends were justified by my means
I use thee to the level of my carnal ways.
My urgent need, by sun and candle-light.
I use thee freely, 'cuz I know I'm Right;
I use thee surely, as  I spin my lies .
I use thee with a passion, I put you
you in your place, and with my falsehood 's faith.
I use thee for a time. I seemed to lose
It, ain't  that quaint, --- I use  thee for a time,
Here's tears, for all your life! --- and, if i choose,
I shall but USE thee til I'm out of breath.

May The Lord bless you and keep you.

May the Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you.

May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace.

I wish you well. Never forget these lessons.

Jay

What a great answer Jay. Though I don't get the rock thing.

Hi Skylark. Don't be too hard on yourself, as you can see this guy has had at least thirty years to refine his approach. Apparently, it's worked for him, so he'll move from woman to woman trying to achieve something or other. He's not important. What is important is that you realize why you fell into his game. Which after reading your post, I think you already have. Now it's just that "how could I fall for his BS", and I think you know that too. It's really had dating today. Years ago most people married young, so they avoided the pitfalls of middle aged people going through all kinds of issues. I think you were innocent enough not to believe a fifty year old guy singing his song must be off the mark. But who cares, chaulk it up to one of those "you'll never believe this one" story. I'm prettty sure most single people today have a few of them. As you said, take a little time off the ferris wheel and find the things you like about yourself. Then of course, it's time to get back out there. Next time, it could be Prince Charming. LOL

Loneliness. You wanted somebody and he was there. As for him, who knows what his problems are. He might thought you wanted to hear that. Some people fall in love (they think) with every person they see. He might had had another person on the line while he was with you, wanting to move up or better himself. Find a woman who could support him. Just thinks he is a lover boy and show his buddys how many women he can get. But in all he isn't worth your time or thought. You learned a lesson and you will look closer at the next one. Good luck...

Kelly-

I do not know where the rock thing came from. I suspect I may have picked it up in the Stream of Consciousness.

Jay