HELP!!!!
So I have been away from home for a while and slept with someone other than my boyfriend. I just found out that I am 5 weeks pregnant and I was just reunited with him 3 weeks ago. We have been trying to have a child for a while with no luck...I dont know if I can go through an abortion, but also dont know if I can lie to him for the rest of his life that the child he is raising is not his. I dont want to lose him either and I know if I tell him I am pregnant he will be completely ecstatic (if I dont tell him that its not h
WHAT SHOULD I DO??????
Love is the battery of life....
Hi Melodys, ------- You are not going to like my answer but I have to tell you what I think. No, you don't love your boyfriend and you have no respect to him (if you lover him and had respect to him you wouldn't cheat !). So please don't say that you don't want to loose him..... Sure you can't even think of pretending he is the father (that is out of question !). If you want to have the baby leave your boyfriend and raise your child in a honest way. I truely appologise for being direct and blunt. ------- Best regards,
THAT WHICH DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER.
Bull. Reality is, it will usually hurt like hell and leave you with a permanent limp.
Well, you have (no pun) seriously screwed-up. You only have two choices : (1) have an abortion (either telling him or not telling him about it) and (2) come totally clean about the whole thing: telling him absolutely EVERYTHING. Anything less than the total truth will backfire: I absolutely guarantee it. Then it is up to him to decide what to do: hopefully, he is a truly wonderful guy who can accept you AND another man's child. If you try the 3rd route: having the baby and trying to pull it off as his - the odds are almost 100% that , at some date, the truth will come out. SO, having totally screwed-up, are you a big enough person to NOT take a chance on totally messing up 3 lives ( his, yours, and your baby's) ?
Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.
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Oh, brother. I agree with tyrebite, you screwed up BIG TIME! How ever did you manage to end up in such a predicament?
You have to accept whatever consequences you will face by telling the truth. You should not have cheated on your b/f. You are in the wrong here and deserve what you get. Tell him now,. get it over with & own up to your mistakes.
He was away for work, so it was not because we were fighting or anything. I have been questioning our relationship and that is one of the reasons why I broke down and was unfaithful. We were trying to have a child he really REALLY wants a child.
I understand what I did was wrong and when he came back I know that I want to be with him...I am now leaning either towards telling him the truth and be prepared to be a single mother or terminate the pregnancy (which I am not very fond of) and never tell him about it...
If there is a will.. there is a way
Be honest!.. that is the only way you can get over all of this.. you are 5 weeks and it is best you tell your current boyfriend you are pregnant and it is not his.. if you both come to an agreement of either an abortion ( which I am against).. or he may just be willing to be in the child's life.. you may never know.. best to be honest and let him know what is going on.. also contact the other male that you engaged with that caused the pregnancy.. if you lie to him and say it is his.. guilt is going to eat you on up.. trust me I know a woman who lied to her boyfriend and cried lots up to 4 months after the baby was born and had to let him know.. you don't want that to happen.. do what is best for that child.. don't lie.. be honest.. best wishes
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