husband as been going out every friday night after work.he doesn't come home to change.he just goes out in his work clothes.I know he gets dirty and i know he doesn't like to go out dirty,but he tells me him and the guys from work go out for drinks.he doesn't come home unitl 6-7am in the morning and i'm unable to reach him.oh i forgot there is a young women who has been calling him and texting him.i asked him who was she he first lied telling me didn't know her,but later told me she works with him.He quit his job where this young women works.i wanted to go confront her he became very angry. He tells me to stop acting childish.i know he is hiding something.it's been a almost a year,and this bothers me,i don't want to hurt this young women i just the truth.do you think if i approch her at her job will she tell me what i want to know.
I could fathom my husband staying out all night every Friday. However I would want to know why this woman is calling your husband but I don't believe the workplace is the place to confront her. If you have seen her number call her and ask the questions you so deperately want to know. I say not the work place because you can be arrested for trespassing on company property. As for the hubby tell him if he can't come home at night then don't bother and you will see him in court. Sounds drastic I know but so is leaving the wife home all night long by herself not knowing where her husband is. You should have put your foot down sooner. And please don't whine" I might lose him if I do". If you do you haven't lost much.
i feel this is the only way to speak with her.He called her at work on 11/25/08.My husband as another job and he doesn't work on monday's.I feel he's going to his old place of work on monday's.i tried taken-off from work on a monday.but for some reason that monday.he goes to my job early after i left for work.He called me asked me where was i because he didn't see my car at my place of work.My husband is hiding this affair and i need to confront her at work,because that's the only place to get answers.I need his lies to stop and i want closure.
It is what it is:)
Well I see your confusion and desire to confront this female... and while I agree something looks like your husband is not being very honest... and yes he could even be cheating with this individual... I do not think you should approach her at work... kinda goes under "Do not mix business with pleasure" it could be used against you at some point... I would however... if you truly want to question her... find out her phone number and call to ask... not knowing her character or "what" your husband has been telling her "if" they have been having an affair... you dont know how she will react... I would not be threatening in any way shape or form... but honestly... I would not even bother... I would hire a PI... or ask a very good friend equipped with a camera... to trail him after work some day... but I would get my proof... then act accordingly... if he's able to cheat... he's able to lie... find out... dont even bother with the 2 of them until you have your proof:)) Good luck:))
Good luck just don't get arrested. Then you will wind up looking like a fool and your husband will use that in court. Dump the trash (hubby) on the curbside. Don't even wait till trash pick up day. I think you already know the answers to your questions. My thoughts are with you.
one more answer it takes 2 to tango after you kick her buttt go home and kick your husband's butt and throw his clothes out in the street but give him some garbage bags to put them in too. Bless you.
She has no reason to lie to you. If this is something that really bothers you, you should either call her or talk to her in person and get some answers. I know if it were me, I would do the same because you can't expect to get the truth from him. It sounds like he is hiding something and you are only going to get the truth one way..from the other woman. Make sure you approach her in a calm adult manner and have a woman to woman talk.. if you approach her the wrong way, she might not tell you anything.
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You shouldent have to worry about hurting the girl its your husband and you need to take charge!!No woman needs to call him or text him all the time.You should call her!! You dont need to be a bitch to her but you do need to ask her questions and make shure she knows your his wife and see if she would come over so the both of you can confront him.And if she was realy just someone he worked with then why did he lie he had no reason to lie but he did so there is definately something going on between them and you need to get between it .you are not a third wheel and you shouldent have to be there are plent of other fish in the see and i dont believe he deserves you . but remeber this once a cheeter always a cheeter. i learned that the hard why believe meJust be tuff and just do it !!
Any husband who goes out all night drinking and doesn't come home until 7 am is a bum. There's no excuse and you should not accept this behavior. I am wondering if he quit his last job or was fired. I would not approach this other woman. If there is an affair going on, it is your husband you need to confront. You most likely won't get the truth from her. If you are in love with your husband still, I'd insist on marriage counseling immediately and bring up his behavior. You can choose to forgive him or move on. I would just not tolerate what is going on with him right now. It must be torture for you.
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