STORY ONE
Is Carlys mom saying that Carly was overweight before and now Carly is skinny or is Carly reading too much into this: STORY : Carly is THIN and A FEW DAYS AGO when Carly came home from work she changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants she wore to work. Carlys mom asked her as they sat down to eat if Carly lost weight, and Carly said no, but this upset Carly. Carly said to her mom that her mom always tells Carly she looks beautiful. Her mom said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told Carly that Carly is skinny enough.”. (OK KEEP IN MIND THAT LAST WEEK WHEN CARLY AND HER MOM WENT TO VISIT CARLY’S AUNT IN ANOTHER STATE THEY TOOK THE BUS. (CARLYS AUNT GAVE A DESCRIPTION OF CARLY TO THE CAB DRIVER PICKING CARLY AND HER MOM UP AT THE BUS DEPOT BY SAYNG CARLY IS VERY SKINNY. (AND THE LAST TIME THE AUNT SAW CARLY WAS A YEAR AGO.)
STORY TWO
QUESTION I AM ASKING AFTER YOU READ THE STORY IS WHY would SANDY (a chunky girl ) tell MARY (a thin girl who is always told by strangers, relatives, friends she is thin/skinny, looks like a size 4) that Sandy thinks Mary is average and size 8,then pauses and adds in size 10. MARY (who is THE friend I am asking about) IS UPSET AS TO WHY SANDY WOULD SAY WHAT SHE SAID WHEN EVERYONE IS ALWAYS TELLING MARY SHE IS THIN/SKINNY AND SINGLE DIGIT SIZE. HERE IS THE STORY: Mary (very thin) and Sandy (chunky)met in the hallway, Mary told Sandy she got a parking spot right across the street. Sandy said to Mary Exercise. And the reason Sandy said she mentioned exercise because she is concerned about her heart. Mary decided to ask; Sandy do you think I am thin; As Sandy was putting stuff away Sandy replied to Mary; You are average, size 8 paused and added size 10;Mary left and went back to her desk. Four co-workers saw Mary and asked Mary what was wrong Mary told them the story. Her co-workers said to her; Mary you are thin/skinny and cannot be more than a size 4, and not more than 110 pounds. Then Mary said; So why did Sandy say average and size 10 if everyone sees me as skinny/thin size 4;They replied; Sandy is jealous; Do you agree/concur with Marys friends? Here are some things her co-workers and friends said after Sandys remark: Audrey: Mary you are so skinny Billy: Mary you are thin. Jill: No wonder Mary you are so skinny Tom: Mary you cannot weigh more than 100lbs Yvette: Thin I want to feel you Mary Sara: Mary you are thin Petunia: Thin not just saying that you Mary are thin - cannot weigh more than 90lbs Doris: How do you Mary stay so thin and you have to be a size 4; Joanne: Mary you are so thin Leslie: Mary is a thin person Helen: How skinny do you Mary want to be Arlene: He is a big man, however, you Mary I can push Iola: Mary you are very thin
STORY THREE
MY QUESTION: after you read the story: DO you agree with Susan that all Kerry is saying is that Patti is thin with shape STORY: The two players are Kerry and Patti. Kerry and Patti who were having a conversation about many things and then all of a sudden the following happened. Kerry said: Patti I think you are a size 5/6 in clothing, even the temp that works for me said you have to be a 5/6 in clothing. Patti didn't say anything. Kerry said; you have hips, but they are NOT big. Look at my hips, my hips are big yours are not; Patti just listened and didn't say anything.. At 5:00PM as Kerri ,Patti and Susan walked to their cars together Kerry told Patti again that Patti looks like a 5/6 in clothing. Patti asked Susan (a person who witnessed the conversation) Does Kerry think I have big hips; Susan replied; No Kerry does not. Kerry even told you that she doesn't think you have big hips. All Kerry is saying is you are thin with shape. "
STORY FOUR
MY QUESTION after you read the story: Did I give the right answer? STORY: My friend Peggy was out sick for two days in a row with food poisoning. When Peggy came back to work she met Tania by the ladies room at 9AM. Tania said; girl you are skinny, you lost weight. Peggy thought Tania was implying that Tania never thought Peggy was skinny before her two day illness (everyone is always telling Peggy she is skinny - all of her). Anyway around 3PM Peggy was in Tanias office and Peggy asked Tania did Tania think that Peggy still looked sick and does Tania think Peggy look pale. Tania said Peggy you do look pale. Then Peggy said to Tania did Tania think Peggy looks drawn like Tania told Peggy earlier. And Tania said she didnt say that. What Tania said she said was that Peggys face looked like it lost weight and when one isnt smiling and one looks pale their face looks thinner. That night Peggy called me on the telephone and told me the story and asked me was Tania implying that she never thought Peggy was skinny before her two day illness. And I told Peggy that Tania wasnt saying that at all, all Tania said was that Peggys face looked skinnier.
STORY FIVE
MY QUESTION Do you agree/concur with Ramona's friends that Ramona should not be bent out of shape because the clerk could not see what she looked like due to the fact she was standing behind the partition and all he could see was her neck and face and she was wearing a coat. Ramona and the store clerk are the two people in the story. STORY: Ramona came in and purchased her herb tablets. She asked him how much should one take. The clerk said to her that most women should weigh a 160 pounds, however, she weighs a little less so she can take less. The little less bothered her so she asked him to clarify what he thought she weighs he said 130 pounds. She replied you don't even know what I look like and he remarked that I see you come in here; Telling her that he thought she weighed 130 upset her because everyone always tells her that she looks like she weighs 110 or less.Also keep in mind that he wasn't facing her when he said this and there was a partition blocking his view of her so all he saw was her face and neck. When Ramona told her friends the story all of Ramona's friends said she should not be upset because when the clerk made the comment she was standing behind a partition and all he could see was her neck and face and Ramona was wearing a coat. KEEP IN MIND THE FOLLOWING1)RAMONA WAS WEARING A COAT WHEN SHE CAME INTO THE STORE THAT DAY(2)LATER ON WHEN THECONVERSATION TOOK PLACE SHE WAS STANDING BEHIND A PARTITION AND ALL THE CLERK COULD SEE WAS HER NECK AND FACE(3KEEPIN MIND EVERY ONE ALWAYS TELLS RAMONA SHE IS THIN/SKINNY ANDWEIGHS NO MORE THAN 110 POUNDS(4)THE CLERK ONLY SAW RAMONA A TOTAL OF FIVE TIMES SPREAD OUT OVER THE YEAR AND EVERY TIME HE SAW HER SHE WAS WEARING A COAT)There are absolutely no cameras or mirrors
STORY SIX
MY QUESTION after you read the story: Do you concur with Colettes friends that Josie only said; Well; in a hesitant voice was because Josie never saw Colette standing, Josie only saw Colette sitting so Josie never realized how thin Colette is. STORY: Colette (who is very thin) went to a coffee shop for lunch and a girl who is there was eating lunch with her brother. The girl who is mentally challenged saw Colette eating a bagel and cream cheese and said; You shouldnt eat that;. The brother explained that his sister just came from a nutrition lecture. Colette told a co-worker the story and said; Do I look fat; The co-worker said; Colette you are very thin.; Later on Colette went to make Xerox copies of a report. Colette was standing on one side of the Xerox machine and Josie on the other and all they could see of one another was from the waist up. Colette and Josie exchanged small talk and then Colette said; Josie do you think I am thin?; Josie hesitantly said; Well, and then decided not to wait to make copies. Colette finished making copies went back to her desk. Late afternoon Colette got up to do something and Josie ran over and said to Colette; I only saw you sitting down, my god you are thin.; Colette that night got together with a few friends and in passing told them what transpired between she and Josie and all Colettes friends said ;the only reason Josie said; Well; in a hesitant voice was because Josie never saw you (Colette) standing she (Josie) only saw you (Colette) sitting so she (Josie) never realized how thin you (Colette) are and she (Josie) even admitted when she (Josie) saw you (Colette) standing that you (Colette) are thin.;
STORY SEVEN
MY QUESTION: after you read the story: Did I give Patricia the right answer. STORY: Today at work an elderly customer asked Patricia if she lost weight and Patricia told her no. The customer said that Patricias face looked like she lost weight, but maybe Patricia was tired. Then as they started to walk toward Patricias coworkers desk the elderly customer told Patricia that Patricia is so skinny. Patricia said to her that that Patricia was always skinny. The elderly customer replied you are like me you lose weight in face but gain in stomach. The stomach part bothered Patricia. Patricia said to the elderly customer that Patricia is skinny everywhere. The elderly customer told Patricia that Patricia is skinny every where. That the elderly customer does not want Patricia to get fat but Patricia should gain five pounds. The elderly customer said that the elderly customers stomach is big since the elderly customer retired. And that the elderly customer thinks Patricia is skinny every where and she said that even Patricias hands are tiny as well. Patricia called me and told me the story and I told her that all the woman is saying that it looked Patricia lost weight in the face and Patricia is skinny everywhere including Patricias stomach, but the elderly lady has a big stomach.
STORY EIGHT
MY QUESTION after you read the story DO you agree with what we said to Lucy? STORY: My friend Lucy was sitting at the dining room table with her cousin Eileen. Eileen turned to Lucy and said: Lucy you are a size 8 in clothes and Lucy replied; Yes I am.” Eileen said: I thought you are a size 8 but I could not remember if you told me you are a size 8 or 10. The next day Lucy told me and few of our other friends what Eileen said and Lucy asked us does my cousin think I am higher than a size 8 and we told her that no that Eileen does not think that at all
STORY NINE
MY QUESTION after you read the story do you agree with Jennifer’s friends? STORY: Lets say two people (Katie and Jennifer) worship in the same place. However, they really don’t come in contact with one another in the place of worship or any other place for that matter, but one day they meet in the parking lot in the shopping center in town. And Katie says (in a surprised voice) Jennifer you are so skinny. However, Jennifer is/was always skinny. And when Jennifer told her friends what Katy said her friends said to Jennifer: Katie never looked at you ever so that day in the parking lot she finally saw what you looked like and until that day she never realized how thin you are
STORY TEN:
MY QUESTION after you read the story is do you agree with Mimis friends: STORY: Mimi is a size 6 but LOOKS SMALLER and she went to a flea market and a woman was trying to sell a pair of jeans. The woman turned to Mimi and said you are a size 10 ;my daughter is a size 10. That night when Mimi went home she told her friends what the vendor said and her friends said to her: the vendor just wants to sell her jeans, she would say the same thing to a size 2.
STORY ELEVEN
What I am trying to ask is: that Patricia is telling Betty look how can I think you have plumb legs when I have never, ever seen them and it was only a dream nothing more.Here is the story again: "I know that Betty is reading into it: KEEP IN MIND IT WAS PATRICIA THAT HAD THE DREAM, NOT BETTY. PATRICIA HAD THE DREAM ABOUT BETTY and a Rock group. MY QUESTION: Can Betty accept the fact that Patricia does not think Betty has plump legs and it was only a dream.? The two players are Patricia and Betty. Betty always wears long wide skirts. Patricia and Betty were having lunch. Patricia told Betty she had a dream about a rock band that she and Betty love. The dream was as follows: Patricia and Betty were on a double date with John and Steve (two of the male rock stars). Patricia was with John and Betty was with Steve. Steve said I only like girls with plump legs and Patricia replied Betty has plumb legs. END OF DREAM. This dream got Betty upset and she asked Patricia are you saying my legs are plump. Patricia said no I have never seen your legs. It was only a dream
STORY TWELVE
: MY QUESTION: Do you agree with Susanna? My friend Caroline (who is a size 6/8) was at the park with her friend Tom in 2006. She was wearing an oversized sweater. Tom looks at the sweater and says “Size 10 body in a size 12 sweater”. This got her upset so she asked “Do you think I am a size 10” and Tom said: “I don’t think you are a size 10 all I am trying to do is make a comparison between the body and the sweater. I could have easily said size 50 body in a size 52 sweater, OR a size 100 body in a size 102 sweater.” - Then for some reason Caroline and Tom lost touch for two years and then they bumped into one another and went and grabbed a cup of coffee. An hour later out of the blue he handed Caroline the following note that he wrote that he swore to himself if he ever ran into Caroline he would give the note to her: THE NOTE: “You are not extra, extra large, You are not extra large, You are not large, You are not medium and has never been medium,. YOU ARE SMALL AND HAS ALWAYS BEEN SMALL. YOU ARE A SIZE 5 AND IF A SIZE 5 IS LARGE THAN YOU ARE A SIZE 1.” After Caroline and Tom parted Caroline called her friend Susanna and told Susanna everything that happened two years ago and then she read Susanna the note. Susanna said:“Caroline all your friend Tom was doing two years ago was just trying to show the difference between the body and the sweater and Tom does NOT think you are higher than a size 5.
STORY THIRTEEN
: MY question: Do you agree with Sara? In 1987 Jessica was talking with Bob (her boss) and her friend Nancy. Bob says “Nancy you are skinny”. Then Jessica decides to say: “What about me, am I thin” Bob says “No” but knows Jessica is obsessed with weight. Later on Jessica thinks Bob said that he was only kidding, however, she knows for a fact that her other bosses always say that Jessica eats to live, but they live to eat Even though Jessica has an excellent memory she cannot remember if it really happened or if she imagined the above incident in 1987. Jessica called Sara and Sara said: “ No one would flat out tell someone they are fat unless it was a joke. They might say something like you know you are a little bit overweight or something a bit more polite. The incident could be real because you think Bob told you he was clowning around. Also guys like to annoy girls and play on their sensitivities”
STORY FOURTEEN
: Read carefully. Read what Yvette says as the final answer before you give your answer. MY :QUESTION: Do you agree with Sandra? KEEP IN MIND THAT ANOTHER CUSTOMER ASKED MARIE HOW SHE STAYS SO THIN AND NEVER GAINS WEIGHT, AND ANOTHER CUSTOMER SAID TO MARIE THAT MARIE KEEPS GETTING SKINNIER AND SKINNIER AND ANOTHER PERSON TOLD HER THAT SHE IS SKINNY LIKE A FAMOUS SINGER HERE IS THE CONVERSATION: Yvette: “Marie did you gain weight” Marie: “Everyone always tells me I am skinny” Yvette: “Wait a second it may be the glasses. They are an old pair and magnified” Marie: “Then take the glasses off” Yvette took the glasses off and looked around and then looked at Marie Yvette: “Yes it is the glasses, you are skinny. You know I was wondering why that when I was walking over here that the buildings seemed bigger and weird looking” she said this twice Sandra (A coworker of Marie’s) called Yvette over to giver her something. As Yvette was walking away she said “Marie you are small the glasses make everything look bigger. Then Marie told Sandra what Yvette said. Sandra said “Yes you can accept the fact that it was the glasses that made Yvette think you gained weight and yes she thinks you are skinny and did not gain weight”
STORY FIFTEEN
: MY QUESTION: Do you agree with Rhoda? Nina saw her best friend for the first 18 years of their life. Then Nina moved and only saw Kelly (her best friend) in 1973, 1977, 1985, and 2002 - just for about five minutes in each year. And the rest of the time they just talk on the telephone. Then on January 2008 the following telephone conversation took place: Kelly “I am so surprised how the elementary school kids dress and also they are more endowed. When I was in school I was a size 7 but now I am a size 12“. Nina “I am a size 6/8” Kelly “I thought you would be a size 10 because my mother is a size 12, my mother-in-law is a size 16, my friend Cheryl is a size 10, and another friend is a size 12, my sons girlfriend who is 19 years old is a size 3” Nina “Do you think I am fat” Kelly “You are far from fat but the average woman takes a size 10” Nina “Do you remember what I look like” Kelly “No I don’t remember what you look like all I remember is you wore a pink suit with lipstick that matched, you must be skinny” Then they hung up. Nina called Rhoda and told Rhoda the story and Rhoda said: “Yes you accept the fact Kelly does not remember what you look like and the only reason Kelly said size 10 is because of the women Kelly sees on a day-to-day basis and the size 10 comment was made on the phone and not face-to-face”
STORY SIXTEEN
: My question: DO you agree with Shelly?
Darla (who is thin) and Phyllis (who is thin) were on the bus and Phyllis spots a girl on flag outside a Karate school in a bikini. And Phyllis says "If you take Karate you can look like her too". Darla “What who, oh that girl on the flag, but what do you mean if YOU” Phyllis clarified “I mean YOU as meaning people in general” Darla “Why you don’t think I am thin“ Phyllis : “You are on the thin side, you have a thin face" Darla "But I am thin every where" Darla replied “Yes you are, but “I have a friend that is thinner than us and no one would ever call you fat“; Then when they got off the bus Darla said “You know people tell me I don’t look like I eat“ Phyllis said “I would not go that far‘ Darla “You mean you are saying I don’t look anorexic“ Phyllis “yes that is what I meant when I said I would not go that far“ Darla said “Thank God, but everyone says I am skinny” Phyllis replied: "Well it is better than every one telling you that you are fat" Then when they were on the phone three days later Phyllis reassured Darla that she thinks Darla is thin. Darla called her cousin Shelly and told Shelly the story and Shelly said “No one would ever mistake you for being anything other than thin and yes you can accept the fact that Phyllis thinks you are thin and all she was doing was making fun of the flag?
STORY SEVENTEEN
: My question: Do you agree with Alicia’s friend - give details? This conversation took place at a local drugstore between Alicia (a customer) and Francine (who works in the store). Keep in mind that Alicia and Francine never really talk to another when Alicia comes into the store FIRST CONVERSATION: Francine: “Why do you use this vitamin” Alicia: “To stop the deficiency” Francine: “Did you gain weight” Alicia: “Why do I look fat” Francine: “No before you were too thin now you are perfect” However, this did not satisfy Alicia so she kept calling and writing letters to Francine and pestering her and asking Francine if Francine thought Alicia is thin . SECOND CONVERSATION: Francine: “This letter writing and calling has got to stop” Alicia: “Just think about answering” Francine: “Maybe” Alicia: “Just answer one question - do you think I am thin” Francine: “No” (but she said this in anger) Alicia: “Who do you think is thin” Francine: “Me” (Francine is about 25 pounds overweight) Alicia: “Well about a week ago I went to my doctor and he offered me candy and I told him I don’t like candy and he said Alicia no wonder you are thin” Francine: “I am thin, you are not” (she said this in anger as well) Alicia: “Francine you are ___” Francine cut her off and said: “GO ahead and say it” Alicia: “Francine you are not thin” THAT NIGHT Alicia called a friend and told the friend the story and the friend said “(1) Francine had to say you were not thin because she had to say something nasty to get rid of you because you were pestering her and writing letters to her; (2) and Francine knows you are thin, just look in the mirror; (3) and all she meant was that before you were too thin but you are still thin”
STORY EIGHTEEN:
My question: DO you agree with Ellen when she said that Rebecca can accept that Hannah think Rebecca is thin - give details THIS CONVERSATION TOOK PLACE BETWEEN HANNAH (REBECCA’S therapist) AND REBECCA FACE-TO-FACE IN HANNAH’S OFFICE Hannah: “You are the right weight for your size” Rebecca: “What do you mean” Hannah: “You are not overweight or underweight” Rebecca: Do you think I am thin” Hannah: “Do you like to be thin” Rebecca: “Yes” Hannah: “It is ok to be thin” Rebecca: “True” Hannah: “You are thin not skinny: Rebecca: “Why did you hesitate when I asked you if you think I am thin” Hannah: “Because some people are insulted when you tell them you think they are thin, they say why do you think I am too thin” As they parted Hannah reassured Rebecca one more time she thinks Rebecca is absolutely and definitely thin then this CONVERSATION A WEKK LATER FACE-TO-FACE IN HANNAH’S OFFICE Rebecca: “So how was the party” Hannah: “Great it ended at 1AM” Rebecca: “That is great. Just out of curiosity do you think I am thin” Hannah: “Absolutely and definitely thin” Rebecca: “Why did you say that I am the right weight for your size” Hannah: “Because many times I associate thin as being too skinny, thin usually isn’t in my vocabulary” PHONE CONVERSATION A DAY LATER Rebecca: “Just confirming my appointment for next week” Hannah: “Ok and You are absolutely definitely thin” Rebecca: “Ok I believe you think I am thin, but what is your definition of thin” Hannah: “You cannot go by definition but by the person. Let me explain: In other words lets say a girl by the name of Donna is blonde. When you look at the definition it doesn’t say Donna is blond, it says blonde is a color, same applies to thin. Rebecca is thin. I said you are definitely think absolutely thin. I said it about six times. Again you are absolutely and definitely thin. I will repeat it again.” and she repeated it a few more times Rebecca: “You do tell me all the time I am thin” Hannah: “I know I did , but I told you in different way” LATER THAT NIGHT Rebecca called Ellen and told Ellen about the conversations and Ellen said “Yes you can definitely accept the fact Hannah thinks you are thin?
STORY NINETEEN
: My Question: Do you agree when I told Stacy that Erica does not think Stacy is higher than a 6/8. Stacy who is a size 6/8 went to a store. Stacy was wearing a light weight jacket and was looking thru the blouse section of a department store: A heavyset girl by the name of Erica (Stacy asked her name) was there looking thru the same rack. Erica said: “This blouse will fit you” (She said this to Stacy) Stacy replied: “Thanks” (Stacy looked inside the blouse saw it was size 10, got a little upset.) and said : “When you took the blouse out did you look at the garment or the size” Erica replied: “I just saw it wasn’t my size” Stacy replied: “Because I am a size 6/8” (Stacy said this kind of low) Erica said “These blouses run small I take a size 20 but I also get a size 22” Stacy said: “Just out of curiosity what size do you think I am” Erica replied “You look like a size 6/8. Then they parted company but then bumped into one another. Stacy said: “What size did you say you thought I am” Erica replied: “Definitely a size 6/8.” Stacy called me and related the story and I told her yes you can accept the fact that Erica thinks you are a size 6/8.
STORY TWENTY
: My question: Do you agree with Elaine’s friends. Elaine has always been skinny; Here is a conversation that took place between Elaine and her mom and Shirley (Elaine‘s sister). Mom said: “I am afraid to take you to the party because if someone came over to you and said you got so thin you would take it to mean you were not always thin” Elaine replied: “Well doesn’t it mean that” Mom said: “No. You would just hear it that way, you were always thin” Shirley said: “Elaine you were always the thin one, I was always the heavy one. I mean maybe at 15 you weren’t thin” About four hours later Elaine said: “Shirley why did you say maybe at 15 you weren’t thin. I thought you said I was always thin” Shirley replied: “I just threw out a number, and yes you were always thin” Elaine told her friend Sylvia. Sylvia said “(1) Elaine all your mom is saying is that you were always thin but people might notice you got thinner and (2) your sister always thought you were thin even at age 15. Y our sister was just throwing out a number”
STORY TWENTY-ONE
: My question: Did I give Jill the right answer?
My friend Jill (skinny size 4,6, 8) was at the store looking at blouses and had three in her hand. An older lady had a blue blouse in her hand that Jill wanted. The lady started to put it back but saw Jill wanted it so she gave it to Jill. Jill was happy. Then there was a lady who had a beautiful white blouse in her hand who handed it to Jill. The blouse is a size 12 but looked tiny. Keep in mind at this store the sizes are so off. Jill has brought 12’s, 14’s and 16’s and she is a size 4,6,8. Also keep in mind the size 12 was so buried under the Designer’s label that all you see was the name of the designer. Jill only saw the size 12 when she looked under the designer label. Lady who had the White blouse said: “Here do you want this” (Jill took the blouse and liked it) Jill replied: “You don’t want the blouse” Lady who had the White blouse said “No” Jill replied: “How come” Lady who had the White blouse said: “I look for you. I am looking for my mom and she is big and the blouse is small” But Jill did not buy the blouse. Then the next day Jill happened to be back at the store and saw the blouse. But this blouse had the label next to the designer label located inside the blouse, however, unless you looked inside the blouse you could not see the size of the blouse. Jill thinks the blouse she saw yesterday was purchased and this was another blouse. So she called me and I told her that the blouse she originally saw is different from the one she saw today and no the lady does not think you are a size 12 and that the lady just saw the blouse was tiny.
