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If you're married and he wants a break that's a sign he's looking for the door. If you're in a relationship try telling him you agree and that you need a break also. You might even mention you've met this interesting guy and you ... well you can take it from there. Guys are great when wanting a break for themselves but they are notoriously bad about their wives/girlfriends having the same right. Tell him that he can be a stud, and you can be a studette, and see how he acts. You'll know what to do from there.

If he tells you he needs time and space to work things out then why wait? If he's leaving you with the impression that there's a real possibility you can get back together, the sooner he gets started the sooner this can happen.

I understand your emotion (below);

"i pretty much begged him to give us another chance"

these feeling happen to people in love but I think your mistake is (below);

"but i thought about it yesterday, and last night i told him when we get back" 

Relationships are never 50/50 but they can be more or less equal as long as one partner isn't needy and dependent on the other. If this describes you, you will always be on the receiving end whether it's with him or someone else. I know this is easy from here but give him a sense of your independence, assure him your life will go on just fine no matter what decision he makes. This will help you especially if you find out his time and space has other names such as Kim, Catherine or Nicole. I feel your pain and I hope this helps. 

They are meant to be that way, after all, if it was easy anybody could do it and many can't. Women today have an advantage over their predessors in that they have the opportunity to be independent from men. In years past women with proffesional careers were confined to teachers and nurses but now women are doctors, lawyers and gasp, politicans. Recently, one even ran for President and one ran for VP.

I don't pretend to have all the answers (well, maybe 99%) but the relationship advice I would give any women is to maintain her independence and make him feel as fortunate to have a relationship with you as you feel fortunate to have a relationship with him. I believe it works better that way.

I do hope this works out for you, whatever decision you make.

First off, you are not "lost nor confused". Your thinking seems rational to me. It's all the emotions that have you spinning. Although Gary is right (99% of the time), LOL I don't think playing the game of "I met this interesting guy" is going to help you right now. My opinion may be different from other people but I don't believe in "going back". Forward always seems a clearer option. Once you start to thinking he may come back into your life, not only will it drive you crazy, it may prevent you from working through the emotions you have to go through to move on. It's so easy to say cut your loses and move on when it's not you whos heart is breaking but better to walk away with you dignity in tact then trying to hold onto something that has run it's course. The best way to deal with your pain is to stay busy. Look up old friends, relatives, join a gym.  ( alot of man-candy there LOL) You need some time to find yourself again. That does'nt mean you should be alone. Talk, talk, talk about how you feel with those that care but make sure you include a picture of the person you would like to become after this experience. You don't need a man in your life, Gary is sooooooo right in his last paragraph. You need to be independent and know the man you choose to be with is fortunate to have you in his life. Dab those tears, put on your best smile and show the world you think more of yourself then some guy passing through your life. 

Kelly, what the heck is going on up there in Rhode Island today. Girl, you brought your A game today and another BIG TU to you. Very well said!

I did see your note about being the devils advocate (with emphasis on the devil part no doubt LOL) and I've got another one of these going that's entertaining the heck out of me. If you can find one called "Lesbian motorcycle clubs in indy" it is worth the read. I'm telling you Kel, this one is a real knee slapper. What worries me is that one of my buddies has learned my yedda name and sending in some of these and he/they are enjoying the heck out of getting me going.