I have a 2yr old and a 1yr old, was never married to the father, we lived together from nov. o7 until oct 08, he moved about 2 hours away to go to rehab after finishing a 2wk rehab program he stayed up north and lived on his parents property. I allowed him non-court ordered visitation, well at the end of may 09 he did not return the kids as planned so I went to get them, he took off with them, I called the police and they said I needed proof that I had custody, so I had to leave and come home and go to the courts the next morning and get proof, so I got an Ex-parte order for the immediate release of the kids to me, with enforcement by law if needed. So I went to get my kids. Well we got there and the cops did not enforce it, and eventhough my son was in the window screaming for me, and I had the orders signed by a judge, they made me leave, so I stayed in a hotel for the night and my ex and I were texting and he was telling me that I would not see the kids unless I changed my order giving him joint custody, and so on... Well the next morning, I was served with papers saying he was going for full custody and if I wanted to see my kids I needed to go to his lawyers office and discuss this matter. So I went and the kids were not there, so I was forced to sign joint custody papers, I would have signed just about anything at this point just to get my babies back, they had been gone now for 10 days 5 for the allowed visit and 5 extra that they kept them from me. So as soon as I signed my kids were there and I left came home got a lawyer, and I know have got all that I signed there dismissed, however it is now being contested over the visitation, we are going to friend of court for a parenting time review, and my ex is trying to intimidate me by saying he has 3 lawyers and all this dirt on me, which is crazy because I have a ton on him, but I am not even wanting to go there, all I want is what is best for my babies. So after all of that , this is my question, what do any of you think is a good visitation for a 1 and 2 year old and I know the formula for FOC already but the courts are going to want something more that that because of how far he lives ,so maybe every 2 wks he gets 4-5 days, IDK I am not sure, any suggestions? Also what do any of you think can be done as far as what happened to me not having my Ex-parte being enforced? I was told the cops were paid off, because my ex's step-dad is well known in town. I am just so confused, yes I have a lwyer, but it is through legal-aid, because it was the fastest one I could get as soon as I got the babies home, but she will not call me back and inform me about what to do at this mediation at FOC....please help....
