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My husband needs help in the oral sex area. I have tried ti be patient and show/tell him what/how to do it. He starts off ok, then when I get aroused so does he and loses all concentration and I get turned off and frustrated. Married 19 yrs and need help!!


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Don't give up on your man quite yet. Make this "lesson" a sexy one, don't think of it a chore you have to do. When the two of you are in bed getting heated up tell him what feels good (this can be a huge turn on for guys). He should focus on your clit, but make sure he doesn't forget the rest of your body. Have him touch your breasts, stomach, and thighs as well. Every woman is different, and there may be other parts of you that will take oral sex from the everyday to the out of this world. While there are different strokes for different folks, most women have sensitive clits. If he flattens his tongue and uses wide slow strokes to explore your inner and outer lips, vagina, and clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Experiment with different strokes. In general women like firm pressure and repetitive motion, give him feedback when he is touching and licking you. Alternate, go side to side, up and down. Have him use his fingers at the same time as licking and kissing you. You can always show him what you like by masturbating in front of him, this will show him how you like to be touched and he can mimic what you do. Overall have patience and allow a learning curve, some guys catch on faster then others. We women can be complected!


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"Know that Law of Sowing and Reaping"

My best suggestion is the "69". If you dont know what that is... take a good look at the way the number sixty-nine is positioned. You complained that your arousal ignites his arousal and then he looses concentration. If the both of you are engaging in oral sex on one another, becoming aroused at the same time is bliss! As you stimilate him, he'll stimulate you, and you most definately have to worry about him jumping out of this position.


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Fool me once,

shame on you!!

Fool me twice,shame on me!

When that happens,i just usually take over,cause it's hard for them to know exactly what you want..there are many ways to be aroused,he can do other things to arouse you,like maybe putting his fingers in both..well you know where..:)

maybe you could rent some porn and get some ideas!


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Live simply, love generously and  care deeply.

 

Hi,

     I understand how you feel.  I will say this but probably I will get a million thumbs down.   This view is coming from my being a Nurse. Oral sex is wonderful if the 2 people are particularly very concerned about cleanliness.  Before engaging oral sex, the couple should both shower together with the emphasis of cleaning the genital area to remove the bad odor. It is not pleasurable when you start oral sex and the other person has not taken a shower for how many days.  That will really turn someone off (both sexes ), not unless both don't care about cleanliness.  When one is more conscious on cleanliness than the other, this becomes a problem.

     So if you want your honey to keep doing oral sex, then women should be very sure to be very clean and smell really good in the vaginal area.  Looking pretty in bed is not enough, being clean and using some perfume helps a lot. 

    I am sorry, but I have not seen anyone write about cleanliness in sexual intercourse.  Now you can give me thumbs down.


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