Your Opinions on this Lost Love

You are correct; she is immature. A child often does things without recognizing that there sre consequences. Continuing this would just end in pain for you  and of her lack of understanding for the pain she causes you. You made maximum effort, you tried so now is the moment when you should drop out of this game and look for someone more mature. Close the door and don't look back even if she calls you; get on with your life. You have good character that someone fortunate will appreciate.

u sound like a really nice guy and the only thing u did wrong was chooseing the gurl to fall in love with cause i know this type of gurl cause i used to be like her i'm going to be straight with u this gurl only dated u cause u were older and her friends thought it was kool, and she cares what her friends think about her. when u broke up with her it made her look bad so she thought if she hooked back up with u then dump you would make her so popular with her friends, but watch one day she going to realize that u were a great guy and she missed her chance

p.s just because this gurl broke ur doesn't mean every gurl will so keep ur heart open and you'll find the gurl that will make u happy

I agree with both.  She is very immature.  You did your best for her.  Now the next thing to do is to move on and get someone close to your age so you'll have a lot more things in common.  It is better to stay away from her.  it's not easy to maintain a friendship after a break up.  That creates more problems later.

Best wishes.

I think you have handled things in an exemplary manner. She is immature as you know and if she does grow up she will realise what she lost. In the meantime all you can do is let go and do your thing with a clear conscience.I know you love her but until she grows up of her own accord there is nothing else you can do. Good luck in finding someone else.You sound like a really nice guy who deserves it!

As stated in the other comments, this girl is immature. Obviously your intention wasn't to break her heart and you handled the situation as delicatly possible. Breaking up with her was one of the best desicions you've made because i think she's to immature to love you the way you love her. Your not recieving what your giving and that's just not fair for you. Hang in there, one day the girl of your dreams will walk into your life and knowing you, you won't even know it. ; ] (Might even be aishu you never knowww...=p )

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i'm sorry to hear your heart is broken and that you went back a second time... even though in your heart of hearts you probably knew that nothing would have changed. sometimes we (us women/girls) are really attracted to someone loving us so much but if we're not ready we can't reciprocate. we try, but we can't. this is usually because we're not ready, immature, or whatever else you might want to label it. it is possible for two people to be right for each other but the timing can be completely off. in this way, letting someone go when you don't feel you're getting what you want and need is the best thing to do. you honoured yourself and your needs in the first place by saying "this isn't good enough for me". you never said "you are not good enough for me" so you haven't put anything negative out there. this girl probably tried to love you but wasn't capable for whatever reason but we have to focus on ourselves when things don't work out. as for being "friends" i think your indignation is justified but maybe it could be an energy that could be used for other things. the fact that you question being able to be friends with someone you felt hurt from speaks volumes and you are already telling yourself this is not someone you can afford to have as a friend. friends treat you like the special person you are. raise your standards, and be prepared for nothing less than the best love that could come your way. when you look another girl in the eye and tell her how much she means to you she will see you and match you. walk bravely and with awareness into your next relationship and always trust yourself. i don't believe there are huge mistakes in love, i believe we learn a little more about ourselves in every experience and that is always good. keep going and gently drop her off your christmas card list. then there is space for a new love who will appear when the coast is clear.

Scarecrow ~

She isn't ready to be loved.  She likes the idea of a boyfriend, but the real thing is just too much for her.  Find a girl your own age that wants to be cared for.  You did everything just right.  You treated her well, you tried to make her understand what you needed, and when she couldn't give you those things, you broke up with her as gently as possible.  Years from now, when she has finally grown up emotionally, she will look back on your time together and know what a great guy you are.  She is too young to understand that now, so there will be tears and anger.  Just move on with your life and find someone that is better for you.

Good luck!! 

Yes, I think you did all of the right things. Perhaps she is as you stated more immature than you realized and sees you in some ways as a Father figure. Despite all you have explained to her, she still doesn't get it. You've endured enough pain its time to move on with your life absent of her version of a "friend."