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Too Old to be going through this!!

I've been with this guy for 2yrs. I was coming out of my marriage and fell for this guy( we had this vibe) He was also coming out of a relationship and he wanted to take things slow..he felt I needed time to work out my stuff( having my ex move out, working things out with the kids and just get my life togther) he told me he cared for me but everytime I wanted to make plans and hang out he wouldn't. He said I was too aggressive and I didn't give him a chance to aske me to hang.. I then got really frustrated and would explode on him( I think I took all my anger and frustations out on him) well it's been a rollercoater for the last 2 yrs... he never answers a question..he kinda beats around the bush and that just frustates me even more..When he's not bitching to me it's great we get along and have great times together..but then he'll throw day one in my face and say how could I treat him like that in the beginning, why was I so mean? I'm like "Dude I'm sorry but that was 2 yrs ago..I went to therapy becuz I have alot of childhood issues and that's what was causing alot of my outburst and you would think he'd be there and be happy that I'm trying to fix myself but he is still the same... he won't call me his girlfriend.. only sees me when he wants too.. he tells me he really cares for me and loves me more than I know but never listens to me and most of all he won't forgive me..then I get pissed and tell him he can't jerk me around and why is he playing with my heart and he won't answer.. he'll just flip it on me... Right now he is ignoring me and won't take my calls..I mean he's 37.. Someone help me?

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No matter how many arguments you have, he has found himself in a very comfortable situation where he doesn't have to give much of himself but has the type of relationship that is good for him at your expense. You complain, he doesn't respond and then you continue as if nothing has happened. Why then do you continue? When you met him it was on the rebound but now you should see things more clearly and should look for a better and more mature and meaningful relationship. When you will try to give him his walking papers you will see a radical change because he will feel threatened. But do it for your sake you gave him enough of yourself and your time.


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
Brosen gave you an excellent answer (creditted him with 2 thumbs up).  I would like to add several comments (and I appologise, in advanced, for being direct):
1.  I am not sure he is a matured person.
2.  I have the feeling he is exploiting you.
3.  He'll be with you only when it is
     comfortable / suits him. 
4.  The way he treats you is disgusting.
     Sure you deserve better than that.
5.  He is searching for stupid excuses to
     make you feel guilty. 
6.  Better have a serious discussion with
     him.  Tell him exactly how you feel and
     what you want.  If that discussion
     doesn't bring you to a mutual
     understanding better move on (hard
     and painfull as it be). 
7.  You need a samrt sensetive man next
     to you. I am not sure that's the guy 
     you need.  Think of it.  You carry with
     you many troubles from the past, you
     need a warm sensetive person to 
     understand and support you (as well
     as tons of love). 
Please forgive me for being so direct, I didn't want to hurt you (and on the other hand I have to stick to the truth).
Best regards,


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Take good advice!!

Thanks for the advice... I'm worth more than I'm getting..


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I know that I deserve more than I'm getting.. Thank you for the advice..


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Take good advice!!

I like truth and honesty..thank you.. I need to gain my strength and I will.. I have to keep telling myself I'm worthy of more.. again Thank you for the advice..


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