Oh life.....

No, you are learning how to be your OWN person.

In a good relationship, it is never only one person doing all the giving or making all the decisions. The fact that your boyfriend seems to expect that, coupled with the fact that you no longer wish to allow it; says to me that you have come to the realization that the life you are living is not the life you want.

Never be afraid to follow your own path, rather than someone else's vision of what your path should be.

I think it might be time for you to end this relationship and go out on your own. If you can't quite manage on your own, then bite the bullet and go back to your family. It's not worth the loss of your health and happiness to stay with this man.

Hello betsy_beb!

Within any relationship, there will be a need to compromise but certainly not to allow another to dictate what you can or cannot do or be . . . in truth, you are responsible for your own decisions.

JK is the realist and I am a dreamer. When I combine the realist and the dreamer, that is the definition of 'me.' 

In a way, I consider the Lessons of the Roses as an analogy. I once wrote:

 Roses are precious -- they follow us along life's path.

From beginning to end, there are lessons to be learned.
Their velvet soft petals cover the sharp piercing thorns.
Be forewarned about their true meaning!
Thorns inflict pain filled lessons ...
not to be forgotten along the pathways of life.
 Remember to be gentle and learn compassion and respect.
Beauty, sorrow or adventure ... acknowledge the lessons of the rose!
Unsurpassed elegance for those that have learned 
but pain and tears for those that forget!
From first drawn breath that ends with that last sigh,
each holds a meaning that need be learned ~ hs

Follow you own pathway in life. For every beginning, there is an ending. Remember to open the doors along the way and not be afraid when one needs to be closed. 

hs

I think that you should look around you and wake up to the fact your now worse off than before. And this relationship is doomed as he is a control freak this is only the start of your problems as it will get worse not better. As this is only the beginning of it then comes the abuse beatings we have Mental Abuse then we go to Physicial Abuse then it leads to total control of you. As you say you have stayed away from your family for 7 months this is not what being a independent women does. Then reading between the lines of what you dont say where are your friends and those who you should be around. As i see it you want better for your self than this you had better leave before it gets worse than it is. Yes there is by far better men out there find one that treats you like the lady you are but dont make the mistake of takeing the first man who comes aloung take your time and look around as you can get back to where you are now please dont make this mistake again.LOL

Your statement was ( I don't have my own freedom of my own, i did try to be nice and follow what he wants me to be doing in my life. But this past weeks, it has become so tiring that even though I am dragging myself to do the things that he wants me too, I am no longer having that strength to do so.) this states it all you have no choice in this matter why???? but as you stated ( Just few minutes ago, he keeps blaming me since he's been noticing that I am now easily getting irritated since I am no longer wanting todo all this same old "BS" routine that he wants me to do. ) To me i think you are answering your own question with out knowing so so why live in this type of relationship be your own person get the heck out of it while the getting is good for your own sake. Look at the way you wrote the question and read it carefully most of your answers is in the question you asked.