This question is only for those you have been in a spanking relationship... I want to know how many people were spanked as a child before they entered into a spanking lifestyle as an adult and how many just found this lifestyle with no previous spanking experience before.
I'm sorry. I know that you asked for only people in spanking relationships to answer, but can I please ask you how a spanking relationship is actually enjoyable? I just do not understand.
Its fine that you dont understand, many people dont. In my opinion its more of a phsychological thing. You see I desire to be spanked because its kind of a turn on for me, most people call that masochism but whatever, I like it. Also, I enjoy knowing that my boyfriend/significant other can take care of me. To me, a man is supposed to provide for his wife and kids while the wife is supposed to take care of the house. I know that sounds a little midevil (yes I know I spelled that wrong) but its just how I view things.
Now many people will read this and ask how spankings tie into this, so Im going to answer that question before I get people who want to tell me that I need help or that Im being abused. In order for my boyfriend to completely take care of me he needs to be able to know where I am and what Im doing. There are certain rules that he places for my own good so that it makes his job just a little easier. Such as, Im not allowed to go to drinking parties and if Im going to be home late then I need to call. Im only 18 so the whole not allowed to go drinking makes alot of sense, it keeps me out of trouble with the law. If I break one of these rules there are consequences (in most cases thats where the spankings come into play). He never spanks me when hes mad, he will wait for a couple of hours or even a day or two if needed, and he always explains to me why Im getting spanked. He will then give me a chance to explain myself, this is usually the time when I try to get out of it, but the ultimate decision is up to him; if he sees fit to spank me then thats what Im going to get. Ill admit, I hate being spanked for disciplinary purposes because it hurts alot, but I also know that he loves me and thats why he is taking the time to correct my behaviour. It is because of the spankings that I have quit going to drinking parties while Im still underage and its also the reason why I have quit smoking. I love this lifestyle because I know that I have someone who loves me and who is going to take the time to help make me a better person. BTW, this is all completely consensual, thought I would throw that in just in case there was any doubt.
The spanking lifestyle also has a sexual part to it which is much harder to explain. But it enters the realm of bondage and stuff like that. I really hope this helped you to at least understand it. Whether you decide if you like it or not is completely up to you but I just wanted everyone out there thats reads this to understand that this is not abuse, its just a different but very common, believe it or not, lifestyle.
I'm sorry, but I have to admit to you that I do not understand it at all. Your husband or boyfriend is not the person that is supposed to be reprimanding you and spanking you. That is what parents are for. And what is to say that these 'spankings' are not going to gain some excessive force as your boyfriend starts to feel like he is in control and has the power. This is a very unhealthy sounding relationship with me and I think that you really need to take some time to think abut it. Tell me something ... Are you allowed to reprimand and spank your boyfriend when you feel that he has done something wrong? Healthy relationships should be based on a level playing ground. It doesn't sound to me like you and your boyfriend are equal at all.
No, I am not allowed to discipline him however, I dont want to. This is something that we chose and if I didnt want it then I wouldnt allow it. Its hard to expain it to someone who has never been there, but its what I chose. I wouldnt want it any other way. I dont want to get into a debate about it, I have already been in a couple of those on other blogs. And you seem like I nice person, so I really dont want to argue the point, especially when its not going to change my opinion one way or the other. Like I said, you seem nice, but this is kind of why I only wanted to hear from those that have experienced this. They are the only ones that can give me an informed answer. I hope I dont sound bitchy right now, b.c. Im not mad and I dont intend to offend.
The people who are not into this will never understand. The main thing that they do need to understand though, is that we WANT this. WANT. WANT. WANT. LIKE. LIKE. LIKE. It is NOT wrong if we WANT and LIKE this. That's like asking people who eat tomatoes what is wrong with them? Because personally I think tomatoes are disgusting and I hate them, and I don't understand why people eat them. LMAO. But I am of course smart enough to understand that everyone likes and wants different things.. so I'm not going to preach to them how nasty tomatoes are. lol
me and my wife to be just started to spank, well she spanks me... It started about a month ago when we got back together. I broke up with her for about a year dated someone else,and broke up with her about september, 4. I called my old girlfriend and realized just how much she loved me, more than anyone before, and i'm 47. Well after we got back together I became so much in love with her also,that I felt really bad that I hurt her by breaking up with her in the first place. I wanted her to punish me so bad for hurting her. I couldn't take the feeling any more of guilt knowing that I caused her great stress. Now please understand that she has showered me with nothing but the best love I have ever gotten from anyone, never a mean bone in her body, and very playful sexually. (shes 4'11,Spanish and hot. same age as me 47) Any way before she came home I placed several instruments on a well made bed and waited for her to come home. As she came into the house I asked her to the bed room to talk, where I began to tell her that I felt I needed to be punished for hurting her, I was very afraid of what she would say or think of me, but she had to know how I was feeling. After we talked I found out that her mother would spank her father, and she has seen this (by accident)Several times. She was willing to spank me... And she did for three days she spanked me when ever she wanted to. I was very sore, and I had some trouble sitting in class for a day or two. I'm 6'1 and 245 lbs, as I said she 4'11 117lbs, but she knows how to spank. Afterwards we talked again and all the giult felling were gone, I was able to return her love and feel better about reciving her love after I was spanked for my wrong doings. Having her spank me has no dout brought us much closer than ever. We have both felt a great release and freedom.
I know want her to spank me when ever I get out of line, but we need some help in setting up guild lines for what to be spanked for and when.. do I let her spank me when we go out? We thought of going to a professinal for advice ,but who
As I have said. being 47 male and strong and sucsessfull I never knew just how much being spanked has made things between us so much better, Hope to hear from someone, hope this has helped....
Spanked and free...
I was spanked as a child and this has gone on thur my adult life
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