Need a relationship counselors help on this one

Honestly, I think you should just move on with your life. When you first began it was all good and loving and it was just the two of you. It seems that as she matured, her needs have expanded. And living with other females seeing she can have a life , date, do things, be free and perhaps make more decisions for herself. WE cannot have the best of both worlds. Either she is with you or she isn't.  You sound like a romantic full of love, spirit and kindness. I would end it on a friendly basis  don't look for the flame to rekindle with her. You are worthy of a loving relationship. The heart is not a game playing machine....

This is frustrating....thus will be your whole long life together .....that is until she finds something that MIGHT be better...for her not you!   The first time you met she lied ...why did it take a month be4 she told you her real age.

Needing space...finding out who i am...needing some time...all his means let me alone to play without you but don't you change...just wait and if I return consider that you are so lucky, and if I don't ...well I told you I needed space right?

She seems to make decisions on her feelings, which is an awful way to make choices...because feelings change...she is making decisions for her life while you get to go along , you are just tied to the back of the truck while waiting to ride in it with her...while she drives.

She also clearly weighs the pros and cons of being with or without actually! She is closed, doesn't consult you in relationship , that is selfish, like shellfish - closed! While you get to flounder like Flounder (not shellfish!).

What we have here is a secret narcissist or otherwise called borderline with  women...they drive men insane because they are all such a challenge but then since you can never can please them they are always victims too.

Likely you get her you will end up hating her in the long run, she is not too loyal, changes her mind, not stable. Hey get his Stable like a table!!! just thought of that...I am not narciss as I am sure others have thought of that Too! Lol!!!

She was only furious because you were supposed to still be bawling your eyes out, while trying to find the florist's phone number at the same time you were going thru the picure album of the two of you. How dare you be meeting other people like she has been, it is okay for me but not you....right?    Wrong!...you will want to  DIVIDE your energy on a good wife and the kids someday,remember good relationships start with good people, they grow stronger, not grow weaker from this problem to that problem...she is now a fallen flower used as no more than a fertilizer under your family tree!!! OK?  OKAY!!!!

I would normally tell you to let her make the first move but she has and in quite an unattractive way. It`s your turn. Tell her that message was unnecessary. Don`t show anger but don`t beg either. She may only be testing you, you have already discovered what doesn`t work so keep your cool and take it slow. Continue with friends, posts, etc.. someone once told me " you haffta chase em` till they catch ya! "

I had a similar situation and everything she's doing are signs that there is another man in the picture. Why else would she would she act so funny. She's keeping you as a backup plan cause she knows your a great guy but is spending time with another guy. It's the last thing you want to hear and the worst feeling but the truth will set you free. The fact is this isn't fair to you and that's what women don't understand. Happened to me and runied my world until I cut it off completly. Sounds like you're not in a position to be in a serious relationship anyway and thats not a bad thing. Focus on being successful and building YOUR life. She living on instant gradification right now and being very selfish. When girls say things like,"space" or "feeling presure" or "I just want to hang out with my friends", it means their seeing another dude. Your long post tells me she's all you think about. time to walk away. good luck

Young man, you disclosed certain information that makes me wonder about what is really going on. You stated that you met this young lady when she was still in high school and that she lied about her age. Now, it is hard for me to believe that you couldn't tell that most people in high school are still under-age! You are in college, and so I am sure you know what I mean as you were once in high school and under-age at that at some point prior to your graduation! It seems that this relationship should not have not happened in the first place. It also appears that even after you found out about her age, and your friends warned you against the relationship, you insisted on maintaining it (in some States this is considered as Statutory rape - if the girl was under age). The thrill for a young person in high school dating a college student is great. It seems that the thrill for the young lady is now over since she is also in college and can exercise her options!. You are not allowing her to do this, and this may be a selfish thing for you to do if you keep on hoping that this girl is even for you. 

Let it go young man!. My take on this is that your continued responses to her contacts in any form is unhealthy for both of you. Since you are the one asking the question, you need to take control of the situation and put it in its proper prospective.

good for you ...why not try a computer website ...singles ...just take your time ...check if she answers questions on sites like this .....  if so ...a great clue into her ....read her answers you can learn everything about a person on how empathic and helping (or not!) they may be... hang on and pray alot!